Sharing these 4 gems from legendary Maya Angelou. Across all relationships, we seek answer to these questions. If you are finding yourself answering ‘no’ to one of the questions, it may serve as a great opportunity to lean in further and reflect.

1. Do you see me? – We do this to be heard, recognised, and to be understood in a relationship which allows for vulnerability and deeper connection. How you wish to be recognised and connected to may be different from another person. This is also a reciprocal act, there is power in being seen and to also be present enough to see another.

2. Do you care that I’m here? – We ask this question to respond to the subtle cues and bids for connection with curiosity. Slowing down to be more present and recognise how you look to and respond to each other for support and connection. Looking up to acknowledge them when they enter the room.

3. Am I enough for you, or do you need me to be better in some way? – We ask this question to not only be fully seen or heard but also be reminded that you are ‘enough’ with flaws and all. It address the need to be reminded that you are worthy and fully deserving of love even during the ups and downs. We’re humans and we all make mistakes and that doesn’t take away from our value and worth.

4. Can I tell that I’m special to you by the way that you look at me? – This question addresses the quality of presence and intention when spending time with each other. This can be in the form of subtle gazes towards each other, acts of service and thoughtfulness, and verbal expressions of appreciation and love.

With being present, we can be more intentional with both ourselves and our loved ones. We are wired for love and connection.