Love is messy. Love is being vulnerable, and vulnerability means imperfection. Love is showing parts of yourself that aren’t beautiful, or rather are ugly. It means being honest in your ugliness. It means nights that aren’t romantic. It means nights that are “real” instead when you are all out there trying to understand yourself and the other person over a phone call.
I’m not saying fireworks don’t exist. Damn they Do. The dizziness after a soft kiss, the blank mind when you see someone after a long time, but fireworks aren’t the only thing that matters.
Expectations!!
Love is not a mutual benefit scheme. Love is subject to RISKS…Oh yeah..!!! Unfortunately there are no offer documents which can be read carefully before taking the plunge. It’s a avalanche. You are not only are responsible for the sea of insecurities arising out of your vulnerabilities, but you also are responsible for the reactions arising out of the other person.
Love is Difficult
Love is not convenient. Yes, accept it. It takes your time, effort, sweat, blood…..oh wait..it takes your “life”. If you are one of those who think love is a natural flow of wonderful things happening consecutively then either you are angelic (oh yes..there is definitely an “angel” loving you) or you are delusional (oh wait..is that an “angel” or a shrink :P). It is not a great thing to do in life because it eats you up, tears you down.
“I Love You” versus “I am in Love with You”
If you have to “be in love” with someone, then its better you don’t love. Yes, please spare yourself and the other person, there are plenty of people in this world to screw with. If you are too scared to be hurt again and your guard is up all the time, then you are just making the situation safe and convenient for yourself and the other. Love is different, love is “accepting” something which you never thought you could!!! Love is being with someone knowing and accepting that yes I will be hurt most days.
Love involves uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure….. scary. It will make you cry again, yes you will be hurt in the end. Love is you oscillating between, “I am here and I love you“…”and I’m going to reveal my hidden best & worst to you“…”and I am scared to death that you’ll never understand me” and “you will move on!!”
Still daring to love…please knock yourself out..go nuts!!
Categories: Love, Relationship
Thank you for this much-needed advice about love.
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You are most welcome. Thank you for appreciating the post.
Good luck with Love!
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Thanks for sharing. I needed this advice.
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Oh I am so glad you liked the message in this post. Good luck girl, just remember you deserve all the good things in life.
Best to you!
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Thank you so much for those words.
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Great post!
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Thank you @TheRoamingMind for the appreciation. Glad you liked it.
Best to you
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Very well said!
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Thank you! I am glad you liked it. Thank you taking out time to read it.
Best to you
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Very powerful analogies. Love is definitely something that a great deal of people misunderstand but I agree with you, (if you can handle the truth behind the wall of what many attempt to disclose or are bold enough to expose) then “knock yourself out and go for it”. Great read! Thanks for sharing
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Thank you so much, I am glad you agree with me. Love is mysterious, uncertain and hence difficult.
Best to you.
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Thanks for sharing!!
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Very well written and powerfully so! Love is …it is life!! So my view is love yourself, work on full acceptance of yourself …to be able to be part of a beautiful relationship.
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Ah such wise words! Beautiful. Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts for my post.
Best to you.
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You are most welcome! I truly enjoyed your post …it covers all ground but with a lighthearted power. If you find time with ease …please read my post ‘Love …broken down to basics’ …in the Life-essences-in-prose category. For a different take on love …
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Sure..will do!
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🙂 Thanks
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Very well written, please go ahead and watch ‘the fountain’ starring Hugh Jackman and Rachael Weisz and do share how that kind of love makes you feel. I’m curious.
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The lover vs the beloved. Sometimes the lover is a vampire, sucking all happiness from the beloved, needing them more than they love them. See the Ballad of the Sad Cafe –
https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/952665-the-ballad-of-the-sad-caf
Love can also be all you hoped and dreamed for too. When Love comes from giving, rather than receiving, that is where the dream lies.
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Thank you Xtac for giving a hopeful perspective on Love. Its a salt and pepper relationship indeed.
Best to you.
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Great post and true! Love is built on the bad days and break-ups are made on just the good ones.
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hahahahaha nicely put @Kristina Steiner..
Thanks!
Best to you.
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Loved this post!💕✌
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Thank you Dalila..I am glad you liked it.
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awesome
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Thank you @Raquel Helm.
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This was just powerful, talk about hitting the nail on the head!
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Ah! I am glad you liked it. It hits right on target indeed. Thank you for stopping by.
Best to you
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This was an amazing post to read at a time when I needed it most. It struck at all the right places, damn. Well written! =)
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Hi, I am glad you can relate to this post and it has helped you. This is the best appreciation that a writer can get. Thank you. Do visit again!
Best to you!
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Thank YOU, my dear. =) Been entirely my pleasure.
Good luck ahead.
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Enjoy your writing. You state your ideas clearly and succinctly.
I am a little confused by the last section – love you vs in love. I also need some more explanation of “It’s not a great thing to do….” In your opinion are there no benefits to love? Does this apply to all kinds of love or just certain kinds of love?
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I agree with you love is darn inconsistent…but it’s an inconvenience we welcome and rush to.. hahaha.
Thanks for this.
Awaiting more inconvenience😀
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Love is definitely messy and filled with imperfections but it is definitely a great gift that represents the root of our person when we are open to accept and share it with everyone we meet.
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Dear Friend,
Great stuff. Right on target. Love is the most powerful word their is and the only one that begins to describe how God feels about us. Then with people not everyone can handle the real life applications of this. Thus helped me to understand how my ex had trust issues and why she loved me but pushed me away. That helps some healing to complete.
Thank you,
Gary
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Nice feel-read ! Lovely
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Beautifully written. 🙂
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So true! So many people think love is a constant fairy tale but just talk to a couple who have been married for 40 years and they will tell you it can be hard work but worth it! 🙂
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Good advice. True love is unconditional, accepting the whole person exactally as they are.
Kat
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Love is hormonal chaos ,nothing else
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but wait, there’s more. love is all. love will unfold, doubling what i thought it was. there’s more. but love can be understood only so far. when the mind reaches that point, after love has unfolded again and again, then the heart can open, and love unfolds again. there is always more
thank you for your words
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And thank you for these words. There is more to love indeed than I thought. The response has been overwhelming.
Best to you
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Love this reply x
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I found this on the day I too, posted about Love. Great words, thank you x
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Thank you. I am glad you liked it.
Best to you
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So what’s the difference between I love you and Being in Love with someone?
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The Sage told me a long time ago that before you can love another you must first love yourself. It took me a long time to understand …
“Love,” said the wee snowman to Princess Anna, “is putting someone else’s needs before your own.” (I love that movie~!)
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Love this post but I believe people complicate love….love is not complicated people are, its just who you choose to love and that no one is perfect, of course…people make choices to do certain things, and its up to the person whether or not they want to deal with it and continue loving that person.
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Such fantastic words you wrote here. They are very true. Thank you.
Best to you
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It helps to see love for what it really is. Love isn’t like what you see in the movies or cartoons it can be brutal. Both partners must be willing to remain together through all ups and downs. This does not mean remain with your partner while he or she consistently punches you in the face. If you’re feeling insecure it’s a sign you truly love your partner. This post is fantastic.
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