Love is messy. Love is being vulnerable, and vulnerability means imperfection. Love is showing parts of yourself that aren’t beautiful, or rather are ugly. It means being honest in your ugliness. It means nights that aren’t romantic. It means nights that are “real” instead when you are all out there trying to understand yourself and the other person over a phone call.
I’m not saying fireworks don’t exist. Damn they Do. The dizziness after a soft kiss, the blank mind when you see someone after a long time, but fireworks aren’t the only thing that matters.
Love is not a mutual benefit scheme. Love is subject to RISKS…Oh yeah..!!! Unfortunately there are no offer documents which can be read carefully before taking the plunge. It’s a avalanche. You are not only are responsible for the sea of insecurities arising out of your vulnerabilities, but you also are responsible for the reactions arising out of the other person.
Love is not convenient. Yes, accept it. It takes your time, effort, sweat, blood…..oh wait..it takes your “life”. If you are one of those who think love is a natural flow of wonderful things happening consecutively then either you are angelic (oh yes..there is definitely an “angel” loving you) or you are delusional (oh wait..is that an “angel” or a shrink :P). It is not a great thing to do in life because it eats you up, tears you down.
“I Love You” versus “I am in Love with You”
If you have to “be in love” with someone, then its better you don’t love. Yes, please spare yourself and the other person, there are plenty of people in this world to screw with. If you are too scared to be hurt again and your guard is up all the time, then you are just making the situation safe and convenient for yourself and the other. Love is different, love is “accepting” something which you never thought you could!!! Love is being with someone knowing and accepting that yes I will be hurt most days.
Love involves uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure….. scary. It will make you cry again, yes you will be hurt in the end. Love is you oscillating between, “I am here and I love you“…”and I’m going to reveal my hidden best & worst to you“…”and I am scared to death that you’ll never understand me” and “you will move on!!”
Still daring to love…please knock yourself out..go nuts!!