Love is Difficult

Love is messy. Love is being vulnerable, and vulnerability means imperfection. Love is showing parts of yourself that aren’t beautiful, or rather are ugly. It means being honest in your ugliness. It means nights that aren’t romantic. It means nights that are “real” instead when you are all out there trying to understand yourself and the other person over a phone call.

I’m not saying fireworks don’t exist. Damn they Do. The dizziness after a soft kiss, the blank mind when you see someone after a long time, but fireworks aren’t the only thing that matters.


Love is not a mutual benefit scheme. Love is subject to RISKS…Oh yeah..!!! Unfortunately there are no offer documents which can be read carefully before taking the plunge. It’s a avalanche.  You are not only are responsible for the sea of insecurities arising out of your vulnerabilities, but you also are responsible for the reactions arising out of the other person.

Love is Difficult -

Love is Difficult

Love is not convenient. Yes, accept it. It takes your time, effort, sweat, blood…..oh takes your “life”. If you are one of those who think love is a natural flow of wonderful things happening consecutively then either you are angelic (oh yes..there is definitely an “angel” loving you) or you are delusional (oh that an “angel” or a shrink :P). It is not a great thing to do in life because it eats you up, tears you down.

“I Love You” versus “I am in Love with You” 

If you have to “be in love” with someone, then its better you don’t love. Yes, please spare yourself and the other person, there are plenty of people in this world to screw with. If you are too scared to be hurt again and your guard is up all the time, then you are just making the situation safe and convenient for yourself and the other. Love is different, love is “accepting” something which you never thought you could!!! Love is being with someone knowing and accepting that yes I will be hurt most days.

Love involves uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure….. scary. It will make you cry again, yes you will be hurt in the end. Love is you oscillating between, “I am here and I love you“…”and I’m going to reveal my hidden best & worst to you“…”and I am scared to death that you’ll never understand me” and “you will move on!!

Still daring to love…please knock yourself out..go nuts!!

51 replies »

  1. Very powerful analogies. Love is definitely something that a great deal of people misunderstand but I agree with you, (if you can handle the truth behind the wall of what many attempt to disclose or are bold enough to expose) then “knock yourself out and go for it”. Great read! Thanks for sharing

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  2. Very well written, please go ahead and watch ‘the fountain’ starring Hugh Jackman and Rachael Weisz and do share how that kind of love makes you feel. I’m curious.


  3. Enjoy your writing. You state your ideas clearly and succinctly.

    I am a little confused by the last section – love you vs in love. I also need some more explanation of “It’s not a great thing to do….” In your opinion are there no benefits to love? Does this apply to all kinds of love or just certain kinds of love?

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  4. Dear Friend,

    Great stuff. Right on target. Love is the most powerful word their is and the only one that begins to describe how God feels about us. Then with people not everyone can handle the real life applications of this. Thus helped me to understand how my ex had trust issues and why she loved me but pushed me away. That helps some healing to complete.

    Thank you,


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  5. but wait, there’s more. love is all. love will unfold, doubling what i thought it was. there’s more. but love can be understood only so far. when the mind reaches that point, after love has unfolded again and again, then the heart can open, and love unfolds again. there is always more
    thank you for your words

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  6. The Sage told me a long time ago that before you can love another you must first love yourself. It took me a long time to understand …

    “Love,” said the wee snowman to Princess Anna, “is putting someone else’s needs before your own.” (I love that movie~!)

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  7. Love this post but I believe people complicate love….love is not complicated people are, its just who you choose to love and that no one is perfect, of course…people make choices to do certain things, and its up to the person whether or not they want to deal with it and continue loving that person.

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  8. It helps to see love for what it really is. Love isn’t like what you see in the movies or cartoons it can be brutal. Both partners must be willing to remain together through all ups and downs. This does not mean remain with your partner while he or she consistently punches you in the face. If you’re feeling insecure it’s a sign you truly love your partner. This post is fantastic.

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