You get treated the way you teach others to treat you

One of the greatest obstacles to connecting to intention are your thoughts of what others want to expect from you. The more you focus on how upsetting it is that your family doesn’t understand or appreciate you, the more you’ll attract their misunderstanding or lack of appreciation. Why? Because what you think about expands, even when you think what you find unnerving, and even when you think about what you don’t want in your life.

If you’re attracted to this intention, then you most likely already know which family members push your buttons. If you feel as though you’re unduly influenced by their expectations, or you’re a victim of their way of being, you’ll need to begin by shifting from thoughts of what they’re doing to what you’re thinking. Say to yourself, I’ve taught all these people how to treat me as a result of my willingness to make their opinions of me more important than my own.

Reference : The Power of Intention. Dr. Wayne W. Dyer.