If you keep hoping to be comforted by others, you can feel weighed down by that need. If you have a constant need to be heard, nobody can meet that need to your complete satisfaction. Rather than always seeking comfort from others, offer your comfort and listen to others. In the process of helping, you will be healed. Instead of a lottery ticket, buy some flowers for yourself and your family. If you buy flowers and place them in the living room, you will feel like a winner every time and find abundant beauty whenever you pass by the living room.
Has something disappointed you? Has something made you sad? It’s the school of life trying to teach you an important lesson. When you feel ready, take the time to understand the lesson. The world will keep turning even without you. Let go of the idea that your way is the only way, that you are the only one who can make it happen. The more grateful we feel, the happier we become. This is because gratitude helps us realize we are all connected. Nobody feels like an island when feeling grateful. Gratitude awakens us to the truth of our interdependent nature.
Excerpt From: Haemin Sunim. “The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm and Mindful in a Fast-Paced World”.