Shame Resilience Theory

Shame is defined as, “the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” The number one feeling contributing to disconnection is shame, the most toxic of human emotions. It is most associated with depression, anxiety, grief, eating disorders, addiction and violence.

Four elements of shame resilience :

  • Recognising shame and understanding your shame triggers.
  • Practising critical awareness of yourself, your environment, and the way things work.
  • Reaching out to others and sharing yourself and your stories.
  • Speaking shame to keep it from flying under the radar.

How to overcome shame?

Encourage yourself to consider treating yourself the way you would treat a beloved family member or friend.

  • Self compassion break – Think of a situation causing you stress or pain, acknowledge your suffering, remind yourself that suffering is a part of life, and commit to being kind, forgiving, or patient with yourself.
  • Self compassion journal – Take a few minutes to go over what happened each day, applying the principles of mindfulness, common humanity, and self kindness.
  • Taking care of the caregiver – Practice meeting your own needs and helping yourself relax and recharge.
  • The daring way – Try this new program to facilitate thee development of your shame resiliency skills and enhance your quality of life.

Hope this helps.

Reference : https://www.unf.edu/uploadedFiles/sa/recwell/Rise_Above/resilience.pdf

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Shamed by the people internationally who still make fun of me and make me feel those feelings because of my failures in life, professionally and personally. But I try to fight these thoughts 💭 . Thanks for sharing the posts.

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    1. GS says:

      Research shows that shame and guilt, while sometimes connected, are very different emotions. In the best of circumstances, guilt, or an acknowledgment of wrongdoing, can lead to positive change in a person’s behavior. Shame is a way of closing a person down; research shows that shame, humiliation, and emotional and physical abuse are often closely connected.

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