Even the most beautiful music gets tiresome if I listen to it constantly.
But if I listen to it after some time away, it becomes wonderful again.
The problem is not the music itself. It is my relationship with it.”
Even my best friend gets annoying if I am with her for too long.
But if I see her after a break, she is wonderful again.
The trouble is not the person. It is my relationship with her.”
There is a saying in an early Buddhist scripture:
Paper wrapped around incense smells of incense,
and string binding fish smells of fish.”
Whether we like it or not,
we naturally become influenced by our surroundings.
Ask yourself, “Who do I want to emulate?
Is that person physically or mentally nearby?
If we help someone in the hope of getting something in return,
this is not giving but lending.
True giving is done without expecting anything in return.
It also means we relinquish control over what we have given.
When conversation turns to someone’s flaws,
try not to participate and gently redirect the conversation.
When we speak too much, it is easy to speak ill of someone.
So when you feel talkative, just be mindful.
Excerpt From: Haemin Sunim. “The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm and Mindful in a Fast-Paced World”. Apple Books.