How to Apologize

Apologizing means expressing regret for something you did. A sincere apology involves reflecting on your actions, taking responsibility, and making changes to improve in the future. Giving an apology can help repair a damaged relationship while showing care and respect for the other person.

Here are the steps of apologising in the most effective way :

Reflect on your Actions : Think about how your actions contributed to a problem, even if they were not the sole cause. 

  • Even if someone else also contributed to the problem, what was my role? 
  • Try taking the other person’s perspective. How do my actions look from their side? 
  • As a result of my actions, how might the other person feel? 

Take Responsibility : Say “I’m sorry” (or some version of this phrase) and show regret for your actions. It’s important to speak clearly and sincerely. In most cases, it helps to identify the actions you are apologising for. 

Example:
“I’m sorry for the language I used during our argument. It was disrespectful, and it was wrong.”
– I’m sorry for..
– I apologize for…
– I take responsibility for…
– It was wrong of me to… 

Never make excuses or try to justify your behavior (e.g. “I’m sorry, but I was tired!”). 

Listen and Improve : Give the other person a chance to respond without interruption. Forgiveness may take time and is not guaranteed. Be prepared to discuss changes you will make to avoid repeating the problem. 

Myths vs. Reality

Myth:
Love means never having to say you’re sorry. 
Reality: Apologies can be particularly important when you love someone. An apology communicates you care about the other person and want them to feel better. 

Myth: Apologizing is as simple as saying “I’m sorry.”
Reality: Merely saying the words “I’m sorry” is not a complete apology. An apology requires remorse, an attempt to right the wrong, and taking steps to make sure the problem is not repeated.

Myth: Apologizing will make me look weak. 
Reality: An apology shows you are secure enough to admit when you’ve done something wrong. It also shows you have respect for yourself and the other person. 

References : https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/how-to-apologize.pdf

10 Comments Add yours

  1. henhouselady says:

    Great advice on how to say you are sorry.

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    1. GS says:

      It’s never too late to say..sorry

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  2. erobern says:

    The truth in this 100%

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    1. GS says:

      Relationships can be wonderful buffers against stress, but relationship conflicts can cause considerable emotional pain and stress. Knowing how to apologize—and when—can repair damage in a relationship, but if you don’t know how to apologize sincerely, you can actually make things worse.
      Effective apologies are simple if you know what to say.

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  3. Great advice! Thank you
    May the GOOD LORD bless you richly

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you Goshen. Apologising is an art

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      1. You’re welcome

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for the reblog

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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