Navigating the Galaxy of Relationships Without Getting Lost in Space

Have you ever been in a relationship that felt like love but was, in reality, anything but? It’s a common story that speaks to our hearts and thoughts. We frequently confuse unhealthy attachments for love, clinging to individuals who are bad for us out of dread of being alone. It’s a familiar story, and it’s time to unravel it.

Consider this: you’re on a healing journey, gradually fitting together the pieces of your past. Suddenly, you realize that what you believed was love was actually an unhealthy attachment. It was a bond fostered by fear, uncertainty, and unhealed pieces of yourself that believed you deserved nothing else.

For years, you may have believed that your happiness and worth depended on someone else. You believed that your value was based by how others perceived or treated you. You based your self-esteem on someone else’s approval, believing that love existed only between you and another person. But here’s the truth: the most authentic type of love is the one you have for yourself.

When you begin to love yourself and recognize your own worth, you know that it was not love. You recollect not fully comprehending the concept of love. You believed that your happiness or worth were the responsibility of someone else. You thought that your worth was defined by how others perceived or treated you. You believed that your self-esteem was based on others choosing you or making you feel loved. You believed that love existed only between you and another person. You didn’t comprehend that the most genuine sort of love is the one you have for yourself.

Consider all of the empty promises they made. The person you believed they were was only a figment of your imagination. You were the one who elevated them, not because they deserved it, but because you wanted them to become the person you believed they could be. It’s a difficult pill to swallow, but once you stop placing yourself on a pedestal and start seeing people for who they truly are, you’ll understand it wasn’t love.

And then something lovely occurs. You meet people who actually care about you, and they gradually chip down your barriers. These are the people who do not confuse or manipulate you, play mental games, or send you mixed messages. They believe in you, and you’re no longer accustomed to feeling alone. It’s a revelation, a breath of fresh air that reminds you what true love is.

When you stop looking for closure, explanations, or apologies, you realize it wasn’t love. You understand why things happened the way they did, how they entered your life, and why you picked them when you weren’t feeling yourself. You understand you weren’t feeling your best at the moment, and you infer that they are superior. But now you understand better.

When you no longer miss them or want them back, you know it wasn’t true love. You recognize that the person you’re becoming needs someone who is completely invested, totally committed, fully present, and prioritizes you. You understand that you are a nice person, and it is not your obligation to make people notice your worth.

When you finally realize it wasn’t love, you can let go of all your previous heartbreaks and anguish. You realize that you were the one who caused it by selecting people who mirrored your anxieties back to you. Everything makes clear now. You never truly liked these people; they only reflected your feelings about yourself at the moment. However, as you progress, better people will begin to appear for you, and everything else will fall into place.

The path to self-love and healing is powerful. It teaches you that everything begins and finishes with you. As you mature and expand, you will attract love that actually nurtures your soul. So, let go of what wasn’t love, accept the lessons learnt, and open your heart to the love you deserve. Remember that the most meaningful love story you will ever have is with yourself.

As you continue down this route, you’ll see that the love you nurture within yourself acts as a beacon, drawing people who are also on their own paths of self-discovery and healing. These ties are built on mutual respect and understanding rather than need or fear. They are partnerships that make both individuals whole and complete, not seeking someone to fill a void but to share in the joy of life.

In these new relationships, you will encounter a different type of love—one that is patient, kind, and unwavering. It is a love that does not demand or control, but rather encourages and uplifts. You’ll be surrounded by people who celebrate your accomplishments, console you during your challenges, and inspire you to be the best version of yourself.

This is the type of love that does not develop overnight. It needs time, insight, and a willingness to address aspects of yourself that you may have neglected or suppressed. It’s about accepting your flaws and realizing that they are part of what makes you uniquely you. It is about forgiving oneself for previous mistakes and accepting that they were important steps on your journey.

As you embrace this new idea of love, you will also realize the value of setting boundaries. You’ll learn it’s okay to say no to items that don’t benefit your health. You will understand that maintaining your energy and mental wellness is not selfish, but rather necessary. Setting these boundaries creates a secure area for you to grow and prosper.

In this zone, you’ll be free to pursue your passions and interests, the things that actually make you happy. You will realize that your worth is not determined by your relationship status or how others see you, but by your love and respect for yourself. This insight is freeing, allowing you to live genuinely and unapologetically.

The route to self-love and healing is never-ending, and it demands regular attention. There will be moments of doubt and disappointments, but each stride forward demonstrates your will and tenacity. Celebrate these modest achievements, and remember that you are worthy of all the love and happiness the world has to offer.

So, while you think on your past relationships and the lessons they have taught you, remember that you are worthy of true and pure love. A love that begins with you and spreads out, touching the lives of others around you. Accept this adventure with an open heart and a bold spirit, and watch as the world changes before your eyes.

In the end, admitting what was not love is a significant step toward discovering what is. It is about letting go of illusions and accepting who you are and what you deserve. It is about rewriting your story and living a life of joy, tranquility, and genuine connections. Remember that you are the author of your own love story, and it is never too late to start a new chapter.

4 responses to “Love or Just a Cling-on? Beam Me Up, Self-Worth!”

  1. Yes, our faults and foibles also contribute to the uniqueness of who we are.

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  2. Boy is this ever true. 👇

    “The route to self-love and healing is never-ending, and it demands regular attention.” 

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