Stages of Forgiveness

Though forgiveness can help repair a damaged relationship, it doesn’t obligate you to reconcile with the person who harmed you, or release them from legal accountability. Instead, forgiveness brings the forgiver peace of mind and frees him or her from corrosive anger.

Here are the four stages of forgiveness :

  • Uncovering – Gaining insight into whether, and how, the injustice and subsequent injury have compromised his or her life. Confronting anger and shame. Becoming aware of potential emotional exhaustion. Becoming aware of cognition preoccupation. Confronting the possibility that the transgression could lead to permanent change for them. Discovering how the transgression changed their view of the world.
  • Decision – Gaining an accurate understanding of what forgiveness is, and making a decision to commit to forgiving on the basis of this understanding.
  • Work – Gaining a deeper understanding of the offender and beginning to view the offender in a new light (reframing), resulting in positive change in affect about the offender, about the self, and about the relationship. Showing empathy and compassion. Bearing the pain. Giving the moral gift of forgiveness.
  • Deepening – Finding meaning in the suffering (post-suffering growth). Consideration of times when we have needed other’s forgiveness. Knowing that we’re not alone. Becoming aware that forgiveness allows us to feel more connected with others and to experience decreased negative emotion.

Reference : https://www.psychologytools.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/forgiveness_methods_1.jpg

14 Comments Add yours

    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for the reblog

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      1. My pleasure …🙏🏻

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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      1. Always a pleasure to read and share your posts, Dear
        xoxox 😘💕🎁😊🌹

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  1. gpavants says:

    Garima,

    What a great topic but so hard to do. However if we don’t we never move forward and grow. Have a Happy New Year.

    Gary

    On Sun, Dec 27, 2020 at 10:31 AM Be Inspired..!! wrote:

    > GS posted: ” Though forgiveness can help repair a damaged relationship, it > doesn’t obligate you to reconcile with the person who harmed you, or > release them from legal accountability. Instead, forgiveness brings the > forgiver peace of mind and frees him or her from co” >

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    1. GS says:

      Happy New Year Gary. Forgiving helps you move forward on your spiritual path. You are able to relate to others as part of the human experience. You feel for others as you do for yourself. Emotionally and psychologically unencumbered, you can begin to put the past behind you. Forgiveness is an act of kindness and goodness.

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  2. DiosRaw - Amber says:

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