What Are Your Boundaries Part 1

Boundaries are limits we set for ourselves. Everyone’s boundaries are different, and they are based on what is personally important to us. Boundaries can be set in several aspects of life, such as work, relationships, family, and in conflict. Boundaries can be set in several aspects of life, such as work, relationships, family, and in conflict. Boundaries can be physical or emotional limits and help to determine a person’s comfort level, needs, and preferences. Essentially, boundaries dictate how we want/allow ourselves to be treated, and how we treat others. Healthy boundaries allow for accountability, respect, and open communication.

If you grew up in a home where no boundaries were set or where people violated your boundaries, setting and maintaining their boundaries may be difficult. It is okay if it is hard. Setting clear boundaries is no selfish, it seems the tone for healthy relationships and is an important part of one’s own well being. If you ever notice you feel resentful or drained by a person/place/situation, it may be time to look at the boundaries. Remember, boundaries are not threats or ultimatums. Sometimes it is hard for other’s to respect our boundaries, but this is not a reflection of you.

Healthy Boundaries Look Like

  • Valuing your own opinions
  • Respecting limits set by you/others
  • Not compromising own values for someone else
  • Sharing information appropriately
  • Effectively communicating needs/wants
  • Accepting “no” from others
  • Being able to say “No”
  • Being able to identify when a boundary has been broken

Come back tomorrow for more on how to determine healthy boundaries for yourself.

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23 Comments Add yours

  1. Cynthia says:

    True.. the importance of boundaries is not stressed enough.. beautiful writing ❤️

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    1. GS says:

      I couldn’t agree more Cynthia. Personal boundaries help to define an individual by outlining likes and dislikes and setting the distances one allows others to approach. Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and, really, a healthy life. Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill.

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      1. Cynthia says:

        Yes.. a life skill, something that should be taught to teenagers also in my opinion.. as they enter into a more and more expanding world of emotions and people ..

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      2. GS says:

        Exactly

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  2. rhubarbsrowe says:

    so well written and straight to the point

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you found the post informational. Personal Boundaries are important because they set the basic guidelines of how you want to be treated. Boundaries are basic guidelines that people create to establish how others are able to behave around them. Setting boundaries can ensure that relationships can be mutually respectful, appropriate, and caring.

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  3. mcvih says:

    well see there. Some people believe exactly the same as I. How absolutely refreshing!
    I only differ on the age at which boundary education should start. In my opinion, parents and caregivers should start that education right from the start. Tiny kiddies have sponges for brains. They absorb absolutely everything. The more you supply, the more they take in.

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    1. GS says:

      I agree with you. Before setting a boundary, your child needs to figure out what needs to change. Have them think about what feels bad and what they wish wouldn’t happen anymore. Getting clarity is the first step to setting boundaries.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for the reblog

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Have a great day!!
        xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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      2. GS says:

        💙💙

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  4. ogaraderrick says:

    Well, I was poor at setting boundaries till now. Great post

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    1. GS says:

      I am glad you found my post helpful. It is so important to create boundaries. Personal boundaries help to define an individual by outlining likes and dislikes and setting the distances one allows others to approach. Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and, really, a healthy life. Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill.

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      1. GS says:

        Most welcome. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts on my blog.

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  5. I agree! It’s so important to set boundaries 😊

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    1. GS says:

      Yes indeed Nadine. Setting good personal boundaries is critical to creating healthy relationships, increasing self- esteem and reducing stress, anxiety and depression. Boundaries protect your personal self by setting a clear line between what is me and what is not me.

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      1. GS says:

        Glad you agree.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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