Stop the Drama Part 1

Regardless of your ideological views or political persuasion, these are turbulent times around the world. I’ve noticed a sense of angst, heightened anxiety, and a palpable change in how people treat each other personally and professionally. It’s time to get back to what distinguishes us as human beings – treating one another with compassion, dignity, and respect. Even those with whom we disagree the most deserve to be treated with care. We moved around the triangle until one of us moves out and into a clear and healthy communication pattern. Be the one. Be the change you want in the conversation.

Let’s look at the Persecutor (Bully) in the conversation :

  • Usually caught saying things like “This is your fault”, “You’re not OK but I am so do what I tell you”
  • Critical
  • Puts others down
  • Blames and finger points
  • Keeps victim going
  • Driven by anger or resentment
  • Rigid in thinking
  • Bossy
  • Dominating

How to change converse with persecutor? Move to Challenger with Clear Structure

  • State Boundaries : “I am willing to listen to your story for ten minutes.”
  • Active Listen : “I am willing to listen to your problem without making it mine to solve.”
  • Make Expectations Clear : ” I want you to keep your agreement. Please have it done by Tuesday.”
  • Provide Choices : “You can either keep your agreement or I will no longer be involved. You chose.”

Reference : https://i.pinimg.com/originals/e5/bd/39/e5bd3936ac0c12921134a96d8da6aeb6.png

14 Comments Add yours

  1. DiosRaw says:

    Very true, great work.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Yup this is real af

      Liked by 1 person

    2. jeniferdiano says:

      Agree.

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  2. henhouselady says:

    We all need to keep in mind everyone has had a hard year. This is good advice on how we need to relate to one another.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Yes everyone is going through a tough phase.

      Liked by 1 person

    2. jeniferdiano says:

      Thank you for your inspiring story:)

      Liked by 2 people

    3. jeniferdiano says:

      Just go on and never surrender:)

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    4. jenifer says:

      Go! You can do it po:)

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      1. GS says:

        Yasss….

        Like

  3. jeniferdiano says:

    That’s real:)

    Liked by 2 people

    1. GS says:

      Yes unfortunately

      Like

    1. GS says:

      Thank you for the reblog

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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