Be the kind of person who can put yourself in someone else’s shoes, and understand something not just from your own perspective but from theirs as well.
Are you trying to get closer to someone? Is it because you want something from him? If you wish to be truly close, then discard your ulterior motives. When you are genuinely kind, without an agenda, then others will more readily open up to you. Some people are generous and kind to those outside their circle while neglecting the needs of those within it. It is a mistake to take family and close colleagues for granted. When those closest to you feel ignored and betrayed, everything you have built can collapse in an instant.
A large boulder is an example to us of how to stay true and not to waver even when waves of praise or criticism rush over us.
Excerpt From: Haemin Sunim. “The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm and Mindful in a Fast-Paced World”.