Maturity comes with experience. One lesson of maturity is that we should not take our thoughts too seriously, and must learn to curb our ego and see the bigger picture. Being right isn’t nearly as important as being happy together. Instead of being the smartest person in the room, quick to critique others, be the warmhearted friend, bringing people together and sharing things. Be the sensitive neighbour, capable of feeling the suffering of others.
If I want to convince someone, I first listen attentively and try to understand them. Even if I am right, they won’t be convinced until they feel heard and respected. Many conflicts in our lives can be resolved if we put ourselves in the other person’s shoes. Try to look at things from her point of view. If you consider only your side, you are no different from a child. If you get angry while debating right and wrong, your enraged voice has just conceded defeat.
Excerpt From: Haemin Sunim. “The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm and Mindful in a Fast-Paced World”.