Being a critic is easy. But if the critic tries to run the operation, he soon understands that nothing is as easy as his criticisms. Criticism without a solution is merely an inflation of the critic’s ego. When you hear something that makes your blood boil, don’t shoot off a text or an e-mail right away. A wise person sleeps on it. An instant emotional reaction often leads to a regrettable outcome.
It is easy to make people feel special. People usually prefer talking to listening. Ask many open-ended questions and listen with genuine interest. They will feel flattered by your attention, and even like you. A powerful person is often surrounded by only yes-men, helping their boss feel important and exceptional. If the people around you always agree with you, they are probably opportunists, not loyalists.
Excerpt From: Haemin Sunim. “The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm and Mindful in a Fast-Paced World”.