Daily Dose for the Mind

No one is inherently good or bad. Only the circumstance in which we encounter each other is good or bad. A criminal who happens to stop a car from running over me is an angel sent by God. A Nobel Peace Prize winner who happens to bump into me on the subway is a jerk. In a gathering of seven or eight people, we will surely meet one or two who like us a lot and one or two who are not that fond of us. Don’t take it personally; this is just the way of the world.

Let people have their own opinions— they are entitled to them. It is when you want to change their opinion problems arise. This is not only impossible and futile but also unnecessary. How boring would the world be if everyone thought exactly the same way? When you grant people freedom, you will find yours, too.

What is the use of someone carrying a designer handbag when her behavior lacks the same refinement? The more you try to change your spouse, children, or friends, the more difficult and strained your relationships become. People do not change easily, unless they suffer tremendous hardship or have a life-altering experience.

Excerpt From: Haemin Sunim. “The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm and Mindful in a Fast-Paced World”. Apple Books.

6 Comments Add yours

  1. virgobeauty says:

    I totally agree. Well stated. It’s funny that I read this after having this convo with someone last night about this EXACT subject. Problems arise when things are forced. Allow people to change on their own. Lovely post.

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    1. GS says:

      We like to think of our own personalities, and those of our family and friends, as predictable, constant over time. … And while personality traits are relatively stable over time, they can and often do gradually change across the life span. What’s more, those changes are usually for the better. I am glad you liked the post

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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