Is It Time To Move On

If you’re feeling stuck and unfulfilled, consider this: do you know your “why’? As I progress in my work and career, I find myself frequently reflecting on my “why.” For years, I did not have the luxury of simply getting up and going, but taking small steps toward my values allowed me to stay closer to my values. Values are defined as what is most important to you in terms of purpose and alignment. Your values may sound similar to “Family, success, growth, humour, and so on.

We make decisions (even if they are difficult) when we are aware of our values. We are more willing to face the challenges and discomfort that lie ahead. We are more willing to put in the effort so that we can face the challenges. What are the signs, and how do they correspond to your values?

  • Lack of fulfilment over joy – Our values give our lives meaning and purpose. We can actively choose to stay or leave relationships, jobs, hobbies, and other activities based on our values. Is it time to make a change if you’re no longer experiencing joy and waiting for things to improve?
  • Feeling like you’re being held back or that you’re wasting time – The relationship, environment, job, and so on were all stimulating at some point in life, but the spark faded over time. While this is normal, it also indicates that something needs to change. The longer we stay, the more it appears that we are standing still and losing time.
  • Reminiscing about the past and the “good times” – Feeling obligated to stay because we are clinging to history and the “good times” is not beneficial to either party. How has this stunted growth for both parties? Can we resolve any misunderstandings and choose to move forward in peace and clarity?
  • You’ve outgrown the “relationship,” and it no longer aligns with your values – We’re meant to mature into ourselves by unlearning conditioned thinking and beliefs and letting go of what no longer serves us. This does not imply that we simply use and discard people, but we cannot expect circumstances to change if we do not act.
  • When it comes to making such important decisions, there is a lot of nuance and complexity. We are afraid of the unknown and may lack the resources or skills to figure out why and how. That is also a sign that you should seek assistance, conduct research, and work with a professional.

This post is not meant to motivate people to get out and about. There are transitional periods in jobs or stages in a relationship. The goal is to motivate people to act on their values. Feeling stuck and stagnant can result in burnout and emotional exhaustion. In such cases, we feel hemmed in. It is beneficial to take small steps toward what is important to you.

12 Comments Add yours

  1. gpavants says:

    Garima,

    Change is healthy for sure. Not knowing what to change is a challenge for sure. Sometimes we have to stay the course and do what needs to be done.

    Thanks, Gary

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    1. GS says:

      True Gary. Sometimes we just have to persist, even when it doesn’t make sense and the path shows itself.

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      1. GS says:

        What choice do we have if not persist

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      2. gpavants says:

        Curl up and die. Not a good option.

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      3. GS says:

        This one has crossed my mind too often now. But even death isn’t easy.

        Like

  2. Deep as the ocean goes

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  3. Brenda says:

    Figuring out what’s important and how they align to our values are so important before we act – but I agree, don’t get stuck because you’re afraid of change or upsetting someone. I remember thinking when my father-in-law died that my mother-in-law was now able to get on with her own life, that he wasn’t holding her back anymore. Don’t let others hold you back once you have identified your own purpose and values.

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    1. GS says:

      Well said, Brenda. Sometimes, being too tuned in to our own limitations can make it difficult to move past them. When this happens, it’s helpful to gain a little distance from ourselves by channeling an alter ego. Taking on the persona of someone more confident can help you acknowledge the challenges you face without letting them completely take you over.

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  4. Brenda says:

    I hadn’t thought about taking on an alter ego, but it makes sense.

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