Emotional Abuse Part 2

Emotional abuse does not always lead to physical violence, however almost all physical or social violence does include emotional abuse. It is powerful tool used by one person to maintain a feeling of power and control over another person. 

This type of abuse is intended to install negative feelings such as shame, embarrassment, guilt and fear. It can include belittling or humiliating a partner in public or in private, isolation, name-calling, making a partner feel ashamed, controlling the money, criticism, threats to harm the partner/children/pets, and the silent treatment.

What are the signs?

The Abused

  • Often Can’t Name or Talk About The Problem
    – Blames herself or himself
    – Makes excuses for the abusive partner’s behaviour
    – Believes the partner’s actions are signs of love
  • May Loose Confidence Or Feel Afraid
    – Questions her or his own perceptions or feelings
    – Often tries to explain what she or he meant
    – Feels depressed, stressed, or isolated
    – Spends less and less time with other people or doing activities
    – Changes how she or he acts to avoid making the partner angry
    – Can experience chronic headaches, fatigue, eating disorders, and alcohol and/or drug abuse
    – Experiences a loss of self respect and feelings of self worth
    – May give up on school, job or other life goal.

Hope this helps is developing some awareness of the abuse which is so common that it is oftentimes considered a normal part of a relationship.

26 Comments Add yours

  1. Belladonna says:

    Great read! Yes there is so many different forms of abuse.

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    1. GS says:

      Emotional abuse can leave its stamp on you. People who experienced emotional abuse may fall into similar behavior patterns as adults. One common reaction is to distrust others. Intimacy is so scary, you want to run in the opposite direction. But there are plenty of good, kind people out there. Once you spot your trouble with trusting, you can start to chip away at it and begin to let people into your world.

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      1. Belladonna says:

        I agree! I have experienced many forms of abuse and doubted myself for years.

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      2. GS says:

        I am just glad it’s over for you.

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  2. Wish I knew this years ago. Thank you

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    1. GS says:

      If you’ve experienced emotional abuse, you might have absorbed the (untrue) message that it’s somehow your fault or that you deserve it. Think again. It’s not about you. It’s about the abuser’s need to control you. Remind yourself — over and over, if necessary — that it isn’t your fault.

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  3. henhouselady says:

    Thank you for sharing. You gave a lot of helpful information.

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you found the post informative. Gaslighting is a particularly sinister type of emotional abuse. The abuser might try to make you feel like you’re losing your mind. They might claim, “I never said that” or “I never did that.” They might even hide objects, so their victims feel out of control.

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  4. DiosRaw says:

    ♥️

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    1. GS says:

      People often say ‘That’s just the way my partner or parent has always been,’. It’s not until they start to peel back the behavior that they realize it’s unhealthy. Wouldn’t you agree Amber.

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      1. DiosRaw says:

        Absolutely Garima!!

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      2. GS says:

        Glad you agree Amber. Another book topics maybe 😉

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      3. DiosRaw says:

        Yes. I know this topic well.. 😉🙏

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  5. Kadali says:

    i was once here. i’d rather physical pain

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    1. GS says:

      I cannot even fathom how much you had to go through. But I am so glad it is over for you. You are brave and courageous to be sharing this here. Thank you. You are an inspiration.

      Emotional abuse of child or young person can increase the risk of: mental health problems, including depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. eating disorders. self-harm.

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      1. Kadali says:

        well, it left me battling with anxiety till this day but it took almost four years. But the anxiety lately is only triggered. i am learning to manage

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      2. GS says:

        It’s empowering to see that you recognise you have come a long way. Thank you

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  6. Kellie says:

    Thanks for this post, also went and found your part one to read 👍❤️

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you Kellie. I will make sure I post the links to previous posts henceforth. Sorry for the trouble. Glad you liked the post. The first step to getting help for emotional abuse can be the hardest. This step requires us to recognize the problem. Quite often, people don’t realize they’re experiencing emotional abuse.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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  7. FaizaWrites says:

    It is a very traumatic experience to go through emotional abuse when you are the victim. No one should ever go through any kind of abuse. But it is reality that most people do. I hope this stops some day. No one deserves this kind of treatment.

    You definitely shared some educational tips. Thank you for sharing this post.

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    1. GS says:

      Most welcome Faiza. Mental or emotional abuse, while most common in dating and married relationships, can occur in any relationship including among friends, family members, and co-workers. Emotional abuse is one of the hardest forms of abuse to recognize. It can be subtle and insidious or overt and manipulative. Either way, it chips away at the victim’s self-esteem and they begin to doubt their perceptions and reality.

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      1. FaizaWrites says:

        So true. I definitely agree

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      2. GS says:

        💙💙

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