To get what we really want, we must be conscious of our choices and act with intention rather than being guided by our unconscious motives. Consider a recent significant life decision you made. Was it done on purpose or by chance? Did everything go as planned? If not, what could you have done differently the next time? Are you willing to think about your options before acting?

“We have a plan for life, but life has a different plan for us at times.”
Saji Ijiyemi’s

Every day, we make countless decisions, but are they based on a deeper intention or are they reflexive? Delaying gratification and choosing what is likely to benefit us in the future are important parts of making better life choices.

We don’t need to plan our lives in order to get what we truly desire, because planning does not always work due to unforeseen circumstances. Unexpected circumstances may arise as a result of past choices, karma, or unexplained circumstances. The key is not to be fixated on our future plans, but to know where we want our lives to go. My own observations over the years have taught me that life rarely goes as planned. In fact, looking back on my life, many of my plans did not come to fruition. That doesn’t bother me because my life has turned out better than I could have imagined.

As a result, rather than having a set plan for our lives, we should go with the flow. This entails adapting to what occurs and developing mental and emotional resiliency to what occurs. I admit that it takes a lot of practise to get to the point where we are no longer dictated by external events. But what’s the rush if we keep making unfavourable decisions?

When confronted with events beyond our control, this way of thinking can assist us in becoming more composed. Similarly, we may not agree with what is happening, but we can learn to accept that the experience may contain a larger lesson. Because the puzzle pieces are still forming, we learn to accept that there may be a larger plan unfolding in the background of our lives. So far, are you satisfied with this concept? Looking back on your life, can you see how an unexpected event turned out to be beneficial to you?

When There Is No Spontaneity in Life
“Once we believe in ourselves, we are willing to take chances on curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any other experience that reveals the human spirit.” – Cummings, E. E.

Because we expect the trajectory of our lives to follow the past, planning the details of our lives removes the spontaneity of life. What if we had a difficult past that was full of pain and regret? We may anticipate the same in the future, but this is not always the case. Over the years, I’ve coached remarkable people who overcame adversity and transformed their lives beyond their wildest dreams. They were willing to let go of the past and move forward without bringing their pain with them. You have the ability to do the same. It necessitates a willingness to let go of what isn’t working and move forward with bold intent.

Sometimes the best things happen when we are least expecting them. This is because uncertainty is the bedrock of a life of adventure and personal development. After all, we can only plan life to a certain extent and trust that it will unfold as planned. However, it may occasionally take an unexpected turn, which may be the best thing to happen to us. What I mean is that we won’t know what’s on the other side until we take a leap of faith and move forward with boldness and courage.

“I am realistic; I do not expect miracles.” Wavne Dyer’s

Consider this in your own life. Have you ever had a chance meeting with someone who later became your significant other? Maybe it was a business partner or a significant personal or professional relationship. Could you have predicted such an occurrence in retrospect?

As a result, we must make room for miracles and surprises, because this is how life will reveal itself in unexpected ways. Given my skills and experience in clothing design, I didn’t expect to be speaking on stage in front of hundreds of people. But I took a chance and believed in life despite the lack of evidence. I bet on myself and trusted that life would not let me down. Now I’m inviting you to believe in unanticipated miracles in your life. Instead of talking ourselves out of new experiences, we must allow life to reveal itself through us.

Knowing this, I invite you to make a list of three areas in which you are constantly planning. Is it in your job, finances, or relationships? Are you willing to broaden your horizons in these areas? Could you make room for unexpected blessings, even if it’s only 5%? Is it necessary for you to think differently? Perhaps it requires less planning and more faith. You may need to experiment to find out what works best for you.

I can assure you that even the smallest change, whether in your thinking or actions, can have a significant impact on your life. Take note of how you feel as you make these changes. It may appear frightening at first, but keep a journal and write about your experiences so you can look back and see how far you’ve come. After all, we don’t need to plan our lives in minute detail to get what we really want, because getting what we want comes from making choices we didn’t realise we had to make until the time came.

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