Compassion is the highest virtue in a way and compassion is not possible if you are identified with this or that. Only when you are able to just look at life as life, only then you can be compassionate. If you look at it as my life or your life – no compassion. When life is just life, there is compassion.
But then, we find it easier to show compassion for others, even complete strangers, rather than ourselves, which is sad. Begin with yourself. Compassion can be our liberator; compassion breaks down barriers and joins people together on a human, spiritual level.
Writing is practicing compassion fro myself. Everybody has something about themselves that they don’t like; something that causes them to feel shame, to feel insecure, or not “good enough.” It is the human condition to be imperfect, and feelings of failure and inadequacy are part of the experience of living a human life. Try writing about an issue you have that tends to make you feel inadequate or bad about yourself (physical appearance, work or relationship issues…) How does this aspect of yourself make you feel inside – scared, sad, depressed, insecure, angry? What emotions come up for you when you think about this aspect of yourself? This is just between you and the paper, so please try to be as emotionally honest as possible and to avoid repressing any feelings, while at the same time not being overly melodramatic. Try to just feel your emotions exactly as they are – no more, no less – and then write about them.
Learning to have compassion for yourself and to let go of the judgemental way in which you look at your own life will not only serve to improve your own life’s happiness; the compassion that you show yourself will begin to reflect in your treatment of others, too.
So, what did you do today to be more self-compassionate?