“If we saw reality, we would never be unhappy.” The Buddha
This means that if we looked at life and saw what was actually there from a viewpoint of “I started with nothing and now I have lots” we would experience happiness. Yet we make-up unrealistic expectations of what should be and consequently we experience “not enough”, which has no basis “in reality.” And then we feel bad and experience unhappiness. The latter is incredibly stupid on our part. It is best that we learn how the first is actually true and the latter is false – not as in “positive thinking”, but as in “true reality.” The payoff for doing so is huge! It will immensely alter the quality of your life!!!
“What we are unhappy about is what the story tells us, especially about what it means about us and/or the future. But it is only a story. Seeing through the story and “disappearing” it will create a “that’s just what is so, now what?” viewpoint. And from there you can simply proceed to doing that which will get you more of what you want, from this point forward…and seeing what you already have, and that there is virtually nothing to worry about.”
When was the last time you received a reality slap? We’ve all had plenty of them in our lives: those moments when life suddenly deals us a painful blow. It’s a shock, and it hurts, and it knocks us off balance; we struggle to stay on our feet, and sometimes we fall.
Whenever we encounter a reality gap, it helps to ask ourselves this question: ‘What do I want to stand for in the face of this?’ We can stand for giving up on life, or we can stand for something far more meaningful. We can stand for something that matters, deep in our heart: something that dignifies our suffering and gives us the will and the courage to carry on. Obviously, we can’t turn back time. We can’t undo whatever it is that has happened. But we can choose the attitude we take towards it. Sometimes when we take a stand, we can close the gap, and at other times, obviously we can’t. But the moment we take a stand, we experience vitality; we may not have the reality we want, but we do have the satisfaction of living with purpose.