Self talk is the inner dialogue you have in your mind regarding everything you think about, do, wish or dream of. It could be related to people, places and things both real and imagined. A well–known author was quoted as saying that ‘The average person has 60,000 thoughts per day and of these more than 80% are negative’.
Think back, how many times just today have you criticized, judged, scolded, mocked, or been unkind to yourself? Now think about the impact this has on your mood, self-esteem, curiosity, and willingness to take risks, be bold, be brave? And it doesn’t end there. The danger is not just that we start to believe this dialogue, it’s also that since most of the time we don’t even realize we are having it, we are even more susceptible to its power and fallacies.
“I think I can. I think I can.” We all know mantras can be helpful in reaching goals. Whether it’s powering through a plateau to lose those last 10 pounds or pushing yourself to get through the last mile of that 5k, for fitness and weight loss, positive self-talk can be essential.
So what to do?
Firstly identify the negative thing you say to yourself everyday without knowing. Be aware, listen to your thoughts. So often the fears we have that create the negative self-talk are a result of what we fear will happen in the future – “I’ll be laughed at”, “I’ll get my heart-broken”, “I’ll be rejected”, etc. And while it is admirable to plan ahead, in this type of a situation, focus on the present moment. Focus on the person you want to project yourself as. Focus on helping the current moment be the best it can be. Yes, there may be moments when the best thing you can do is leave because you are that uncomfortable, but instead of storming off in a huff and causing a scene or hoping it will change if you do cause a scene (which it most likely won’t and not in a beneficial way for you, politely remove yourself.
Sounds Good? Please share your ideas for self talk in the comments. Looking forward to reading and implementing them in my life as well!!