When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on. ~ Thomas Jefferson.
Perseverance separates the winners from the losers in both sports and life. Are you someone who perseveres despite difficulties and setbacks, or do you tend to throw in the towel and call it quits when faced with a challenge or adversity? What makes some people able to keep pushing and complete a task while others habitually fizzle and don’t follow through?
Possessing a deep inner belief that you can succeed simply means that you will never give up on your dreams. You will be equipped with the mentality that your success is just round the corner. Yes, you may encounter major challenges or possibly defeats along the way, but because you have a belief that you will eventually succeed, you will revise your game-plan, tweak your strategies, keep moving forward and therefore dramatically improve your chances of success.
But, when the things get tough, all the motivational quotes and stories vanish and what we are left with is fear and feeling of giving up. Something needs to change here. Here are my pearls of wisdom.
Instead of getting frustrated when things don’t go as planned, expect change, ambiguity, and frustration at least part of the time. This is normal. Develop your sense of humor; learn not to take yourself too seriously. Persistence does not mean banging one’s head on an obstacle until one or the other gives way. It does mean finding and applying strategies that will move you forward. Apply your problem-solving skills and brainstorm possible solutions to the problem. Form a team to help identify obstacles and develop alternatives for overcoming them. If you tend to change course too often, practice handling ambiguous situations and learn to wait out your anxiety.
Remind yourself everyday that if you don’t work for yourself, nobody is coming to save you. You have to keep working towards what you want but not at the cost of being un-realistic.