In the living present, the past an the future are not separate from the present. It is in the present that we are continuously constructing the future on the basis of the enabling constraints developed over time as our past (see path dependence). In other words, because humans have a unique capacity to call forth in themselves the attitudes of others they can know what they are doing. Knowing what one is doing immediately incorporates anticipation and expectation into the action of the present and it also immediately incorporates reconstruction of actions past, or memory, all as the basis of acting in the present.
Here are few ways in which you can start living in the present :
- Be Here Now – Accept the uncertainty of the future and the mistakes of the past and live in the moment. Concentrate on one job or thing at a time. Change focus. Be mindful. Challenge negative thoughts. My negative thoughts and moods are probably just passing distractions and probably unrealistic. Observe my thoughts and emotions, see them as separate from myself. I am not my thoughts. Notice mind-wandering. Know myself. Worry less about what others think. Get out and exercise. Get into nature. Get enough healthy food and sleep. Use music. Take notice. Be aware. See. Hear. Feel. Observe. Slow Down. Relax. Concentrate on calm breaths. Have patience. Limit social media, news and device use. Limit screen time. Read. Learn. Be creative. Overthink less. Don’t take things too seriously. Things could be worse. Trust the process of life. Trust the future. Be optimistic. I can handle anything. Go with the flow.
- Empathy & Compassion – Friendliness and kindness for others. Be kind to myself. Accept others. Love nature. We’re all interconnected, interrelated, interdependent and made of the same stuff. We’re much more the same than different. Focus on our similarities rather than our differences. Live natural. Live easy. Don’t work too hard. Do work you enjoy. Manage fear. Manage anger. Don’t hate. Rise above it. Judge less. Be honest. Help improve conditions for others and myself. Use imagination well. Be tolerant and open minded. Smile. Laugh. Use Humour. Have Fun. Forgive. Persevere. Love. Connect with others. Talk to others about your problems and listen to others about their problems.
- Desire Less – Less attachment to property, work, money, alcohol, sex, hopes, ambitions, success, plans, opinions, beliefs, time, places, emotions, thoughts, my self and my ego. Don’t compare myself to others. Manage my desires. Be questioning. Obsess less. Resist Consumerism. Live simply. Give more. Expect less. Be humble. Get perspective, look at the big picture. Everything changes. Accept impermanence. This too shall pass. Let go of my “what if’s”, “should”, ideals, wants, expectations, rumination and what I fear to lose. Let go of the small stuff, focus on what matters. Build resilience, adaptability and flexibility. Build confidence. Live by values that matter. Think independently. Accept imperfection. Change what I can and accept what I can’t. If I can’t change the way I think about. Be grateful and satisfied with what I have.
Reference : Glenn Herbert 2018.