Mental Health

Get Rid of FOMO

FOMO, fear of missing out, is “the uneasy and sometimes all consuming feeling that you’re missing out that your peers are doing, in the know about, or in possession of more or something better than you.” For example, FOMO is booking a vacation with your friends because they’re all going and you’re afraid of missing out even thought you won’t go otherwise.

If this example sound familiar, you might have be suffering from FOMO. The good news is that it’s possible to manage your FOMO. My prescription is as follows:

  • Admit you have FOMO. Before you can fix any bad habit, you have to admit you have an issue with the bad habit. This is not different with the fear of missing out.
  • Take a break from social media. Social media can be a fun distraction. But taken to extremes it is all about FOMO. You see what other people have and what they are doing and you want the same. Avoid this trap.
  • Change. Rather than feeling bad about missing something, take joy in what you have and what you do. Be grateful, be happy, be satisfied with what you have rather than what you don’t.
  • Mindfulness. Live in the moment. Being more mindful helps you appreciate the present moment instead of wishing you were somewhere else. Be willing to accept your current surroundings, and make an active decision to enjoy the people and things around you.
  • Cultivate a sense of gratitude. Instead of desiring stuff you wish you had, practice being grateful for the blessings you currently have. Start by keeping a gratitude journal.
  • Know what is important. Prioritise, Prioritise & Prioritise. When you know what’s valuable to you, you are less likely to feel envious about other people’s successes because you have your own goals or a bucket list that you are working on.
  • Enjoy the journey. Focus on life enhancing experiences rather than possessions or symbols of success. At the end of your life, which do you thing you will remember more, the experience that you did have, or the feelings of regret or possibly being left out from something you missed?

The question is will we ever settle for what we have, rather than cling to the fear that we may be missing out on something better? 

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    • You are most welcome. Fundamentally, the fear of missing out is an experience of anxiety at the thought of not being included in an event, not being ‘in the know,’ and a sense of or fear of not living one’s best life.

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    • Ah I am glad I wrote this today. :):)
      Covert your FOMO to JOMO. JOMO is an acronym for joy of missing out and describes the pleasure of taking a break from social activity–especially social media–to enjoy personal time.

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    • Yes and No. There is a thin line. Because peer pressure is silly. What makes FOMO so effectively terrible is that it relies on The Power of Peer Pressure. FOMO comes from the idea that you are not having fun but everyone else is. The fear of missing out (FOMO) often leads millennials to succumb to peer pressure even when they don’t have enough money. “Often, I am unable to say no to my friends because I get insecure about being left out the next time they plan an outing.

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  1. The only FOMO ppl should be concerned about is ‘not keeping in touch with loved ones’. For everything else, you’ll find out somehow through someone and there’s always time to catch up with that.
    Objects will remain at our mercy forever, but relationships won’t. Nice post.

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    • “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”
      Steve Furtick

      When most people share things on social media, they naturally share things that make it look like they are living an awesome and exciting life. They share photos of themselves out partying with friends, going to fancy restaurants and weddings, or doing exciting things like traveling and skydiving.

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