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Ways to Become A Happier Person

“I just want to be happy!” Whether you have said this, or heard it from someone else, it’s a pretty common theme in our current culture. Everyone wants to be “happy.” The only problem is they don’t know what this means or how to make it happen.

Happiness comes from the activities we engage in and attitude we hold. Learning to fill up our “half-empty glass,” finding value and opportunities in setbacks, and intentionally engaging in positive experiences can all be ways to live a happier life. Happiness is an emotion, and just like all other emotions it’s fleeting and impermanent, however there are certain activities and ways of living that can help us create a happier life.

Below you’ll find some keys to happiness :

  • Show Gratitude. Sorry for overdosing on gratitude posts but gratitude is important. A simple thank you, to God, the sky, earth, to the universe or to no one in particular, is all it takes to ramp up your happiness levels. This simple gesture is a sure way to make you notice the small but wonderful things that happen hundreds of times each day.
  • Be Optimistic. I mean do you want to be miserable all the time by thinking sad negative things and then add to your frustration? To take an optimistic spin on every occurrence is not always easy but certainly a wonderful habit to cultivate. Decide that your glass is always half full, never half empty and see how opportunities and happiness multiply.
  • Look After Yourself. It is important to get enough exercise, fun and relaxation, sleeping well and eating healthy. These are gifts you can give yourself each and every day to help you relearn how to be happy, investments in your present and future that will pay off with massive increases in self-esteem, energy and happiness.
  • Slow Down. If you’re rushing through life, multi-tasking and trying to get everything done as fast as possible, your life is flying past you and you’re simply not appreciating each beautiful moment of it. Take a few deep breaths. Slow down. Look around, smell the air, listen for the tiniest sounds and get into the present moment. You’ll free yourself from the stress of rushing and find a deeper satisfaction and happiness in life.
  • Enjoy absorbing hobbies. A lot of people ask me how do I churn 3 posts everyday, and I tell them I enjoy reading and writing. These are the only two things I do for my creative self everyday. Keeps me relaxed if not happy. Happy people are often very passionate about their hobbies, they invest a lot of time and energy into them and reap huge rewards in return.
  • Forgive. This is a tough one. I want to forgive a lot of people in my life for my own peace of mind but I think its a process and not a one day job to forgive someone. Whenever I feel hurt by past memories, I try to forgive with a hope that these thoughts will cease to exist one day. Good eye contact is probably the most important technique to practice if you wish to appear calm, honey, friendly and confident.
  • Make time for friends. Happy people know that friendships are top of the list of priorities and time should be carved out to nurture these important relationships. Loneliness is a terrible thing that causes depression and related illnesses so invest time and energy into good friendships and you will be repaid in dividends by the joy these relationships bring to you.

 Look for the adventure and meaning that fills you life and start engaging more fully every day. Acting intentionally and taking responsibility for our happiness if freeing and gives us greater control of our feelings. You can begin to develop your own plan to being happier according to your personal needs and values. Practice taking control of your happiness today by using your strengths, being content with what you have, engaging in life, and building positive relationships.

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    • Hahahhaha not all at Navin. I like different thought processes and respect them. We all are the way we are for a reason. When happiness comes from within, you naturally become a more positive person. This is because happiness takes a certain perspective to find. You understand what you are capable of, how important you are, and just how great your life is.

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    • Thank you Lily. I am glad you liked my post. Happiness Is a Choice. Many people believe that you’re either born happy or you’re not. I believe happiness is a choice — that you have the ability to create real and lasting happiness for yourself. Some of our choices are good and others not but they’re all based on our deep and impelling desire to be happy.

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    • Ah one of my favourite one liners is “You can’t pour from an empty cup :)” we all need to take care of ourselves first and then automatically our positive energy will attract people with similar energy whom we wouldn’t have to please. They will be chill with everything. Happiness, true happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give – pleasure, possessions, power – but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy.

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  1. Yes! Who wouldn’t like to feel happier? Most everyone could use more JOY.

    To me, happiness must have a feeling of joyfulness. It appears that many people confuse happiness with gratitude. While gratefulness is a good thing, it can backfire. A person could spend so much being “grateful” that they do almost nothing to improve or elevate their circumstances. Too much gratefulness can easily lead to Inaction. (but nobody talks about that).

    Also, some people suffering from depression may not have enough Norepinephrine and/or Dopamine in their system/body. Do some research and see if that isnt correct. Can anything be done to raise one’s levels of these somewhat? Is it safe? But aside from “body chemistry”, I ask:

    What fires you up with Enthusiasm? What put a smile on your face? A BIG one, right away. And here is where I would say 3 things:
    1. GET A HOBBY!—and–
    2. DO more things, more often, that are pleasurable and that energize you—and then–

    3. STOP being so “Busy”. Everybody is “too busy”. Who isn’t? No one is too busy for more work or more drudgery but almost everyone is too busy to pencil-in more FUN times, for themselves!

    And who’s fault is that? 10 minutes before you die, you probably WONT say “I wish I woulda worked more 75hr. weeks—-but you may very well wish you had went to the Beach more often. Or to the Mountains. Or saw more movies. Or hiked to a waterfall. Or learned to paint. Or do gardening. Or play an instrument. Or went on more out ot town scenic drives. Or read more books. Or went to more amusement parks. Or spend more time kissing your sweetie.

    The clock is ticking. I dont want to be “too busy” for those things. They can make one happy, feel more joyful, and add more pleasure to your Life. –theOwl30

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    • Wow that is a post by itself. Thank you for sharing your inspiring thoughts on this topic. The key to happiness and fulfillment in life doesn’t come by achieving but rather is a result of how we express ourselves. When you express love and acceptance you are happy. When you express rejection and judgment you will be unhappy. Authentic happiness comes from within. It comes from making wise choices, including choosing to be happy. When our external situation is going well, it might make it easier for us to choose happiness, but it is not the cause of it. You can be happy even when things around you are nothing like you would like them to be.

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  2. Forgive… that is a tough one. My grandmas old saying is that “vengeance is better served in a cold plate”. I´m prone to immediately react to someone who has done me wrong, not a smart move so hence the advice of my late grandma. I can work more easily on the others you mention, I certainly don’t multitask. You can say it´s a miracle if you see me walking and chewing gum at the same time so that one is easy but forgiveness….. you can put it in the back of your head and at the right moment you strike. Have been my philosophy in life, serve me well I should add. Never had another problem with that other person that got struck when they least expect it.

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    • Thank you Venus. Writing is my kind of happy. Taking the time to help people not only makes them happy, but it also makes you happy. Helping other people gives you a surge of oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine, all of which create good feelings.

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    • There always seems to be a lot of talk about happiness. We want to know what it is, where to get it, how to make it better, last longer, how to be happy in the face of illness, pain, despite financial setbacks, lack of progress at work and so much more. While it would be nice if happiness was a vitamin you could take, or something that could be instantly transmitted via a message, some kind words, even an injection, such is not generally the case. Indeed, the harder we search for happiness, the more likely it is that happiness will elude us. The truth is that happiness is not automatic – you have to put some effort into it.

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