Mental Health

Conscious Relationship

Quarantine can test any relationship. Conflicts are inevitable and unavoidable. There cannot be a perfect moment or there’s nothing called a perfect life or perfect relationship. One must learn to live with the imperfections. However, if it happens on a regular basis life becomes a struggle. Hence it’s better to work on ways to lessen them before it becomes a threat to your relationship.

Here are a few fundamentals of a conscious relationship :

  • Relationship to Self – The more connected and loving we are with ourselves, the less urgency we will feel around needing the validation and approval of others. Our internal relationship is the foundation in which all other relationships falter or flourish.
  • Emotional Intelligence – In practice, conscious relationship is all about a moment to moment meeting of our bodies sensations, our thoughts, our beliefs systems, and our reactions to the world around us. Feeling our feelings, and being able to communicate them to others is an important skill.
  • Ability to Self-Soothe – As an adult, it’s now your job to tend to the “little you” and learn to self-soothe in moments of heightened emotion, stress or fear. In essence, you are mothering your inner-child; nurturing that little one inside of you who needs attention, wants to feel safe, seen, heard and loved.
  • Connection to Inner Guidance – Developing a clear connection between your mind and body is an important piece in developing self awareness. Being connected to your self awareness. Being connected to your self means you can trust your feelings, honour your needs, and listen to your body when sensations or emotions arise.

Do you agree to these pointers? Love to hear your thoughts.

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    • Thank you Eob. It’s good to be back. Great relationships uplift and empower you. They’re a place of refuge and nourishment, deep connection and understanding. They make life easier, not harder.
      And even through the tough times, the strongest relationships weather the inevitable ups and downs with a sense of purpose and meaning.
      The problem is, very few of us are experiencing this. We’re simply not taught how. Instead, we stumble our way through, trying to work it out as we go along. With plenty of heartbreak, disappointment, and conflict along the way. Thankfully, there’s another way. It’s not for the faint-hearted. It requires super-human self-awareness, a willingness to have tough conversations, and a commitment to doing the work.

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  1. I love this! Especially the part about self-soothing. People often underestimate how important it is to nurture that child inside of us and make sure we feel safe inside our own mind.
    I love your content, keep up the great work!!

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  2. I think it was in 2002 in Colorado there was massive snow storm. It cover cars. My husband was just my boyfriend then. We had to stay in our houses for 4 day and no one could get out to got anywhere. We walked to the grocery store to get to few things, just freezing but we did it. It was a busy time for us trying to careers going for ourselves but that storm made us stop and just be together. I look back on those days fondly. This is different and more scary but still I think we all are experiencing a new normal… and in a weird way it’s probably for the best whether we like it or not. We fight to make more money- we fight to build careers -we fight to be the boss -we probably just really need to be better spouses -better parents-better to ourselves and we get to do that now.

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    • Ah yes, the definitions are changing. Putting your partner first means his or her needs, feelings, and wellbeing take priority over other people or things. A “sense of we” forms as you maintain this priority on purpose each day. You protect your relationship from being destroyed or damaged. You tend to your connection so it feels good to you both.

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    • Hey Potato Sandwich, I have been travelling and then currently in self quarantine due to COVID 19. It’s good to be back. Yes, times are changing for relationships. Let’s not forget the most important relationship which is the one we have with ourselves. We can’t pour from an empty cup. You CAN Love Someone Else, Even If You Don’t Love Yourself. You can’t really love another until you love yourself. You don’t know true forgiveness until your forgive yourself. If you’re feeling ready to love someone, then love someone.

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    • Thank you Jolie. I am glad you liked it. Putting myself first meant I could set my business to one side without guilt or worry about getting back on track. Putting myself first meant that I had the mental strength and the energy to be there for others when they REALLY needed me. Now you may be thinking that putting yourself first is selfish.

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      • Sometimes, it seems so, but like I told someone on another post, when I was a flight attendant, we were taught to put ourselves first. Once, you are okay, you can better help others. It doesn’t mean being selfish, it means being in a strong place for others and I think people in general, don’t get that. Of course, there’s abuses in that, but in general it’s a good practice.

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  3. Hi Garima,

    Yes, it’s important to give people their space and not take too many fussy and grump things too personal. Be safe. Keep writing. Me too.

    Gary

    On Mon, Mar 23, 2020 at 12:43 PM Be Inspired..!! wrote:

    > Garima posted: ” Quarantine can test any relationship. Conflicts are > inevitable and unavoidable. There cannot be a perfect moment or there’s > nothing called a perfect life or perfect relationship. One must learn to > live with the imperfections. However, if it happens on a ” >

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