Conscious Relationship

Quarantine can test any relationship. Conflicts are inevitable and unavoidable. There cannot be a perfect moment or there’s nothing called a perfect life or perfect relationship. One must learn to live with the imperfections. However, if it happens on a regular basis life becomes a struggle. Hence it’s better to work on ways to lessen them before it becomes a threat to your relationship.

Here are a few fundamentals of a conscious relationship :

  • Relationship to Self – The more connected and loving we are with ourselves, the less urgency we will feel around needing the validation and approval of others. Our internal relationship is the foundation in which all other relationships falter or flourish.
  • Emotional Intelligence – In practice, conscious relationship is all about a moment to moment meeting of our bodies sensations, our thoughts, our beliefs systems, and our reactions to the world around us. Feeling our feelings, and being able to communicate them to others is an important skill.
  • Ability to Self-Soothe – As an adult, it’s now your job to tend to the “little you” and learn to self-soothe in moments of heightened emotion, stress or fear. In essence, you are mothering your inner-child; nurturing that little one inside of you who needs attention, wants to feel safe, seen, heard and loved.
  • Connection to Inner Guidance – Developing a clear connection between your mind and body is an important piece in developing self awareness. Being connected to your self awareness. Being connected to your self means you can trust your feelings, honour your needs, and listen to your body when sensations or emotions arise.

Do you agree to these pointers? Love to hear your thoughts.

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52 Comments Add yours

  1. Haroon Mirza says:

    Very informative so good to see you after so many days welcome back

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you Haroon. It is good to be back. But when two people come together with the intention of growth, the relationship strives towards something much greater than gratification. The partnership becomes a journey of evolution, and the two individuals have an opportunity to expand more than they could alone. Deep satisfaction and long-term fulfillment arise as a result.

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    2. Connection between mind, body and spirit. Knowing what we have learned along this path called life…

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  2. Soumili says:

    Quite interesting

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    1. Garima says:

      The reality is, we’re here to grow. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When growth stops, we automatically feel like something’s gone wrong. Because it has. Without growth, we aren’t fulfilling our soul’s purpose.

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      1. Garima says:

        Glad you agree 🙃🙃

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  3. Soumili says:

    Quite interesting. Agree to it. Welcome back..

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you Soumii. It is good to be back 🙂

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      1. Soumili says:

        Even I’m back

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      2. Garima says:

        Yassssss let’s write away 👍🏼👍🏼

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      3. Soumili says:

        It feels too good

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      4. Garima says:

        😁😁👍🏼👍🏼

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  4. eob2 says:

    Good points to remember. Nice to see you back and missed your insightful helpful posts. 🌷

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you Eob. It’s good to be back. Great relationships uplift and empower you. They’re a place of refuge and nourishment, deep connection and understanding. They make life easier, not harder.
      And even through the tough times, the strongest relationships weather the inevitable ups and downs with a sense of purpose and meaning.
      The problem is, very few of us are experiencing this. We’re simply not taught how. Instead, we stumble our way through, trying to work it out as we go along. With plenty of heartbreak, disappointment, and conflict along the way. Thankfully, there’s another way. It’s not for the faint-hearted. It requires super-human self-awareness, a willingness to have tough conversations, and a commitment to doing the work.

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  5. great post! thanks for sharing. very helpful.

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    1. Garima says:

      Glad you liked it Christina. Here is a relationship affirmation for you > I intend to joyfully deepen my loving relationship with my partner, providing greater and greater levels of peace, safety, fun, freedom, ease, joy, intimacy, vulnerability, trust, play, creativity, expansion, positive activation, tenderness and love for us both.

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      1. Thank you for the affirmation! I am single though. I will keep this in mind for the future!!

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      2. Garima says:

        Sending you good vibes. Stay healthy, stay happy.

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  6. DREW5000G says:

    Great post, the kind of post i should read every morning till i live by those guidelines. It would help me no end if i could follow these examples on a moment to moment basis. Thanks 4 posting

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    1. Garima says:

      You are most welcome Drew. Relationships are more important than ever during these COVID times.

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      1. DREW5000G says:

        Yes and the relationship with self has to be right before any other thing, i think.

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      2. Garima says:

        True. Glad you agree with my thought. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your perspective.

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  7. ivonanikolic says:

    I love this! Especially the part about self-soothing. People often underestimate how important it is to nurture that child inside of us and make sure we feel safe inside our own mind.
    I love your content, keep up the great work!!

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    1. Garima says:

      Ah the inner child concept. Seems like a different life when I learnt and practised this. The general idea is that we all have a childlike aspect within our unconscious mind. The inner child can be seen as a ‘subpersonality’, a side of your character that can take over when you are faced with a challenge. The inner child reflects the child we once were in both his or her ‘negative’ and ‘positive’ aspects. Thank you for stopping by.

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      1. ivonanikolic says:

        Thank you for this explanation:) I believe we do have a little child in there, each of us, but some people managed to shut theirs down 😞 I truly believe it’s essential to have him around to keep the sanity these days though!

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      2. Garima says:

        Let’s keep ours alive.

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      3. Garima says:

        👍🏼👍🏼

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  8. I think it was in 2002 in Colorado there was massive snow storm. It cover cars. My husband was just my boyfriend then. We had to stay in our houses for 4 day and no one could get out to got anywhere. We walked to the grocery store to get to few things, just freezing but we did it. It was a busy time for us trying to careers going for ourselves but that storm made us stop and just be together. I look back on those days fondly. This is different and more scary but still I think we all are experiencing a new normal… and in a weird way it’s probably for the best whether we like it or not. We fight to make more money- we fight to build careers -we fight to be the boss -we probably just really need to be better spouses -better parents-better to ourselves and we get to do that now.

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    1. Garima says:

      Ah yes, the definitions are changing. Putting your partner first means his or her needs, feelings, and wellbeing take priority over other people or things. A “sense of we” forms as you maintain this priority on purpose each day. You protect your relationship from being destroyed or damaged. You tend to your connection so it feels good to you both.

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  9. Welcome back Garima, wondering where you were. Some people do come together for the right reasons but never finish that journey. Times are changing, there is much distraction for those in relationships..

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    1. Garima says:

      Hey Potato Sandwich, I have been travelling and then currently in self quarantine due to COVID 19. It’s good to be back. Yes, times are changing for relationships. Let’s not forget the most important relationship which is the one we have with ourselves. We can’t pour from an empty cup. You CAN Love Someone Else, Even If You Don’t Love Yourself. You can’t really love another until you love yourself. You don’t know true forgiveness until your forgive yourself. If you’re feeling ready to love someone, then love someone.

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      1. I like that…’you can’t pour from an empty cup’….let Love overflow that you need to fill other cups. If only everyone found that love inside them and shared it out.

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      2. Garima says:

        Beautifully said ❤️❤️

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  10. joliesattic says:

    Thanks for the info. I linked this one to my latest blog. Thank you for the info. Very timely.

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you Jolie. I am glad you liked it. Putting myself first meant I could set my business to one side without guilt or worry about getting back on track. Putting myself first meant that I had the mental strength and the energy to be there for others when they REALLY needed me. Now you may be thinking that putting yourself first is selfish.

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      1. joliesattic says:

        Sometimes, it seems so, but like I told someone on another post, when I was a flight attendant, we were taught to put ourselves first. Once, you are okay, you can better help others. It doesn’t mean being selfish, it means being in a strong place for others and I think people in general, don’t get that. Of course, there’s abuses in that, but in general it’s a good practice.

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      2. Garima says:

        Yes indeed. We need to fill ourselves with positivity and hope first.

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  11. Kritika says:

    Agree with the points mentioned. Thank you for sharing 🙂
    Stay Safe. Stay Healthy. 🌻

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you Kritika.
      My Relationship Advice: Put Yourself First. There seems to be a theme running through relationship advice: to have a successful long-term relationship, you can’t be selfish. You have to be self-less, put your partner first. At first glance that sounds wonderful, altruistic.
      Stay Safe.

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      1. Kritika says:

        Yes. Would agree to it. 👍
        Thank you 😊🌻

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you for the reblog.

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  12. gpavants says:

    Hi Garima,

    Yes, it’s important to give people their space and not take too many fussy and grump things too personal. Be safe. Keep writing. Me too.

    Gary

    On Mon, Mar 23, 2020 at 12:43 PM Be Inspired..!! wrote:

    > Garima posted: ” Quarantine can test any relationship. Conflicts are > inevitable and unavoidable. There cannot be a perfect moment or there’s > nothing called a perfect life or perfect relationship. One must learn to > live with the imperfections. However, if it happens on a ” >

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    1. Garima says:

      Yes space is very important in a relationship.

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  13. beautifully expressed dear…yes it is truly challenging to be about self when you have a family but I think acceptance is the key at the first place to keep the surroundings loving and reacting to something would spoil the fun. Later on peaceful action could be take to keep oneself at peace and thereby sooth oneself. Keep enlightening dear🥰

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you Prabhjot. I am glad you liked the post. In a conscious relationship You take responsibility for communicating your needs and desires to your partner. In an unconscious partnership, you cling to the childhood belief that your partner automatically intuits your needs. In a conscious partnership, you accept the fact that in order to understand each other, you have to develop clear channels of communication.

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