Understanding Your Mind

Like others, you may question the value of getting to know the inner workings of your brain. What does knowing how your brain works have to do with your health and healing, and the health of key relationships in your life? Why get so deep, you may ask?

When you have another frame of reference from which to understand yourself, you increase your understanding of yourself and life. This understanding allows you to build a better relationship with yourself, based on knowing how your brain and relationships are designed to work together. Here are a few things you can work on :

  • Prioritising Self Care – No amount of love, affirmation, or nurturing to your wound from the “outside” is going to fully resolve the issue at hand. What we require is the inner work of tending to ourselves. Making your own self-love and care a priority is the greatest gift you can give yourself and anyone you enter relationship with.
  • Interdependence vs. Codependence – Codependent people struggle to maintain their own identify separate from their partners and often have a difficult time defining boundaries. Interdependent couples know they need each other, and they are also individuals with their own needs, wants, feelings and boundaries.
  • Communicating Needs and Wants with Love – Learning to express ourselves from a place of love, rather than a place of anger or fear is an important skill to practice. As we grow in self acceptance and self-love, it becomes easier to bring our vulnerability forward in relationship. Healthy boundaries are designed to create deeper connection and intimacy. In this space, we learn to communicate our wants or needs without creating separation.
  • Conflict is an opportunity for Growth – Healing is not a solo journey. We are wounded in relationship and we heal in relationship. We heal by learning to practice vulnerability. We heal developing a stronger sense of self and deepening our capacity to self-soothe. Our most difficult relationships have the capacity to become our greatest teachers. With humility and willingness to look deeper, all of the hurt we experience can act as a gateway for our own healing.

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9 Comments Add yours

  1. harinapandya says:

    Very nice article! You have explained the points excellently..!👌🙂🌼

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you Harina. Glad you liked it. Whoever started the myth that intelligence isn’t beautiful was wrong. The stereotype of nerds being full of knowledge but geeky and awkward in appearance does an injustice to the idea that true beauty stems from the mind and heart. Because truly, intelligence isn’t just about knowledge of facts. It’s an assimilation of said facts into a knowledge of people and places and ideas – and the ability to communicate all that in a compelling way. Intelligence implies higher-level thinking – the ability to grasp the complex and grapple with it – to enjoy honest dialogue and stimulating discourse. There is a certain beauty in conversations with such people where you don’t want to stop talking for there is so much to discuss and debate and enjoy.

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      1. harinapandya says:

        Absolutely true dear..I am totally agree with your thoughts.. intelligence is always beautiful, it leads our life in a healthy and productive manner!

        Even I believe that, beauty of mind and heart leads us towards high level of EQ ( Emotional Quotient) and SQ (Spiritual quotient)..which represents intelligence.

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      2. Garima says:

        Despite this criticism, the concept of emotional intelligence—sometimes referred to as emotional quotient or EQ—has gained wide acceptance. In recent years, some employers have even incorporated emotional intelligence tests into their application and interview processes, on the theory that someone high in emotional intelligence would make a better leader or coworker.

        While some studies have found a link between emotional intelligence and job performance, many others have shown no correlation, and the lack of a scientifically valid scale makes it difficult to truly measure or predict someone’s emotional intelligence on the job or in the home.

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      3. harinapandya says:

        Yes so true, now a days scenario has changed 👍👍

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  2. Another great article. Prioritising self care would be #1 on my list too. I like the fact that you’ve really brought out the importance of understanding our interactions with those closest to us as well, with the codependence v independence model.

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    1. Garima says:

      Yes charity begins with oneself.


  3. Remarkable! Its truly remarkable piece of writing, I have got much clear idea on the topic of from this paragraph.


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