Like others, you may question the value of getting to know the inner workings of your brain. What does knowing how your brain works have to do with your health and healing, and the health of key relationships in your life? Why get so deep, you may ask?
When you have another frame of reference from which to understand yourself, you increase your understanding of yourself and life. This understanding allows you to build a better relationship with yourself, based on knowing how your brain and relationships are designed to work together. Here are a few things you can work on :
- Prioritising Self Care – No amount of love, affirmation, or nurturing to your wound from the “outside” is going to fully resolve the issue at hand. What we require is the inner work of tending to ourselves. Making your own self-love and care a priority is the greatest gift you can give yourself and anyone you enter relationship with.
- Interdependence vs. Codependence – Codependent people struggle to maintain their own identify separate from their partners and often have a difficult time defining boundaries. Interdependent couples know they need each other, and they are also individuals with their own needs, wants, feelings and boundaries.
- Communicating Needs and Wants with Love – Learning to express ourselves from a place of love, rather than a place of anger or fear is an important skill to practice. As we grow in self acceptance and self-love, it becomes easier to bring our vulnerability forward in relationship. Healthy boundaries are designed to create deeper connection and intimacy. In this space, we learn to communicate our wants or needs without creating separation.
- Conflict is an opportunity for Growth – Healing is not a solo journey. We are wounded in relationship and we heal in relationship. We heal by learning to practice vulnerability. We heal developing a stronger sense of self and deepening our capacity to self-soothe. Our most difficult relationships have the capacity to become our greatest teachers. With humility and willingness to look deeper, all of the hurt we experience can act as a gateway for our own healing.
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