Successful Relationships

Successful relationships, we want them, we want to live them. Most of us want to meet and settle down with the “right” person and make such a relationship last. What are some of the most important ideas when it comes to making your love last?

Here are some principles stated by Dr. John Gottman that you will find useful :

  • Enhance you love maps. You know all of your partner’s relevant information, from life dreams to favourite movies, as a best friend would.
  • Nurture fondness and admiration. You have a positive view and deep appreciation of your partner, and express it.
  • Turn towards your partner instead of away during times of stress. you want your partner to be that confidante.
  • Let your partner influence you. You shouldn’t make important life decision autonomously, as a single person would.
  • Solve your solvable problems. All couples have solvable and perpetual problems, but long term couples solve those they can and understand there will always be perpetual problems.
  • Overcome gridlock. What often underlies perpetual problems are unfulfilled dreams. Talk about those dreams with the goal of making peace with the problem.
  • Create shared meaning. Develop the big and small rituals that help build the bond with your partners. Rituals range from hosting an annual party to having coffee together in the morning.

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10 Comments Add yours

  1. Carol Anne says:

    awesome post here. thanks for sharing it!

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    1. Garima says:

      Successful couples have the ability to solve problems and let it go. They focus on taking care of the issue rather than attacking the person. Even when angry, they find ways to be upset and stay close at the same time. Once the matter is resolved, they forgive and forget. Thanks Carol. I am glad you liked it.

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  2. Great post on how people should strive for each overs happiness and goals, keep up the positivity!

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Garima says:

      Yes a relationship is two way.

      Liked by 1 person

  3. dakshali27 says:

    I have hurt my best friends feeling, I don’t know what to do now??

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    1. Garima says:

      Forgive yourself.

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      1. dakshali27 says:


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  4. Beautiful! Definitely enjoyed this one at this time! Thank you!

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Garima says:

      You are most welcome Matt. Glad you liked it.


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