Emotional infidelity occurs when you or your partner become emotionally connected with someone outside of your relationship, either in person or on the Internet.
One way of looking at emotional infidelity is that it is very dangerous, because it not only takes away time and energy from the marriage, but it can lead to sexual infidelity and possibly to the end of marriage. Another way of looking at it is that it is a symptom of problems that already exist within a marriage.
Here are few tips that will help you to overcome infidelity. Give your relationship another chance.
Talk to Each Other
- Talk about your feelings. It reduces tension, anger, frustration, and calms you down in general.
- Take turns listening. Despite your anger or feelings of shame and guilt, listen to what your partner has to say.
- Tell the truth. Full disclosure is very important if you want to regain your partner’s trust. But don’t make comparisons: they will only hurt your partner.
- Keep it personal. When you open up, talk about how you felt and don’t accuse your partner. Accusations won’t bring you closer together.
- Accept the past. It’s a difficult step to take, but worth it. The past can’t be changed. However, the present and future can, so focus on them.
- Accept each others emotions. The both of your have emotions and need to express them in order to move on. Allow your partner to do this. Don’t argue, but accept what is being said.
- Accept professional help if you need it. A professional can help you understand why things happened and bring you back together.
- Rebuild trust. You can only rebuild when you do this together. Stick to your promises, keep your word, and back your words with actions.
Do Things Together
- Do things you both like. By doing things together you understand again how much fun you guys had, and why you are together in the first place.
- Make an effort. Be interested in your partner and pay attention to the things he or she tell you. By making an effort to grow closer to each other again.
- Have a laugh. Try to set aside your frustration or anger, and allow yourself to have fun with your partner again.
- Develop more intimacy. Infidelity is almost never about sex. Infidelity is about needs that haven’t been met. So listen to each other and explore each other’s needs.
Looking Past Your Emotions
- Give your partner a chance. If your partner and what you have it worth fighting for, then give your partner a chance to make it up to you.
- See past your emotions. Focus on your partner and all the good things you guys did. You’ll see that there are much more feelings present than just the anger, frustration and sadness.
- Sometimes overcoming emotional infidelity seems impossible because of all the damage that has been done. Professional help can guide you guys through that difficult and painful process.