We know that instilling and developing virtues in ourselves and in our children is one of the best ways for families to thrive. It brings joy and peace into the family and unites the family. The family unites to improve for each other, and this is what leads to happier and healthier lives. Cultivating virtues leads a child to develop confidence and a more meaningful life. It makes daily life much more pleasant for everyone, most especially parents! And, once cultivated, they last a child’s lifetime.
Virtues are often confused with values in part because people often associate virtues with being good in some capacity—and the definition of good means different things to different people. Some define virtue as doing what’s best for yourself. Others think of it as being your best self.Then there are those who define virtues in the traditional context of being good not gossiping, not cheating, not stealing.
Here is a list of must have strengths and virtues :
- Appreciation of Beauty & Excellence – Appreciating beauty, excellence, and/or skilled performance in various domains of life.
- Spirituality – Having coherent beliefs about the higher purpose, the meaning of life and the meaning of the universe.
- Gratitude – Being aware of and thankful of the good things that happen, taking time to express thanks.
- Hope – Expecting the best in the future and working to achieve it.
- Humor – Liking to laugh and tease, bringing smiles to other people, seeing the light side.
- Forgiveness & Mercy – Forgiving those who have done wrong; accepting the shortcomings of others; giving people a second chance; not being vengeful.
- Humility & Modesty – Letting one’s accomplishments speak for themselves; not regarding oneself as more special than one is.
- Prudence – Being careful about one’s choices; not taking undue risks; not saying or doing things that might later be regretted.
- Self Regulation – Regulating what one feels and does; being disciplined, controlling one’s appetites and emotions.
- Citizenship – Working well as a member of a group or team; being loyal to the group.
- Fairness – Treating all people the same according to notions of fairness and justice; not letting personal feelings bias decisions about others.
- Leadership – Encouraging a group of which one is a member to get things done and at the same time maintain good relations within the group.
- Love – Valuing close relations with others, in particular those in which sharing and caring are reciprocated.
- Kindness – Doing favours and good deeds for others.
- Social Intelligence – Being aware of the motives and feelings of other people and oneself.
- Bravery – Not shrinking from threat, challenge, difficulty or pain, acting on convictions even if unpopular.
- Persistence – Finishing what one states; persisting in a course of action in spite of obstacles.
- Integrity – Presenting oneself in a genuine way, taking responsibility for one’s feelings and actions.
- Vitality – Approaching life with excitement and energy; feeling alive and activated.
- Creativity – Thinking of novel and productive ways to conceptualise and to do things.
- Curiosity – Taking an interest in ongoing experiences for its own sake; exploring and discovering.
- Open-Mindedness – Thinking things through and examining them from all sides; weighing all evidence fairly.
- Love of Learning – Mastering new skills, topics, and bodies of knowledge, whether on one’s own or formally.
- Perspective – Being able to provide wise counsel to others; having ways of looking at the works that makes sense to oneself and to others.
Which of them are strongest in you?