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Ways to Cool Your Anger

Anger is not a bad feeling. Some people believe that anger is bad and that they shouldn’t express anger. This is not true! It’s completely normal to feel angry when you feel threatened, but anger sometimes gets the upper hand. As a result, you may do or say things that hurt others.

Here are certain ways to cool your anger while arguing and while you are at edge.

Here are steps to do when you’re arguing :

  1. Make it a priority to respond kindly/respectfully.
  2. Focus on breathing slowly and deeply.
  3. Politely excuse yourself from the area/room, get space.
  4. Accept that you won’t get through to someone and inwardly wis them peace.
  5. Ask yourself if this is worth the energy.
  6. Notice that you’re angry, imagine yourself feeling forgiving.
  7. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
  8. Breathe when you want to yell or raise your voice.
  9. Emulate how you think someone peaceful would respond.

Here are steps to do when you’re at edge :

  1. Spray a calming smell.
  2. Pet/Stroke an animal gently.
  3. Watch/Listen to comedy.
  4. Go for a walk/run
  5. Take a nap
  6. Eat a delicious meal
  7. Spend time in nature
  8. Allow yourself to laugh.
  9. Make a joke or read one.
  10. Close your eyes, focus on being quiet.
  11. Write down your anger.
  12. Pop balloons or water balloons.
  13. Go out with friends.
  14. Go see a movie.
  15. Play on the playground.
  16. Take a warm bath with epsom salts.
  17. Sit with a sand garden
  18. Plant flowers
  19. Listen o relaxing music/sounds
  20. Dance 
  21. Focus on a craft
  22. Look at funny/cute pictures or video online

When you’re fed up :

  1. Do what you can to fix the problem & accept that it’s all you can do.
  2. Vent it out
  3. Have a good cry privately or with someone who cares.
  4. Punch pillows until you can/t anymore.
  5. Give yourself a time out, go somewhere quiet and get cozy
  6. Write your frustration in an email, but don’t send, sleep on it.
  7. Turn off the news/ watch family programming.
  8. Speak with a positive supportive guide/friend.

Ask your physician or trained health professional about anger management
courses and other helpful resources in your community. Please consider getting help if anger is damaging your life and the life of your loved ones in any way.

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      • Ah music. Listening to music can have a tremendously relaxing effect on our minds and bodies, especially slow, quiet classical music. This type of music can have a beneficial effect on our physiological functions, slowing the pulse and heart rate, lowering blood pressure, and decreasing the levels of stress hormones. Music, in short, can act as a powerful stress management tool in our lives.

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  1. Great post, you have shared expressing anger as a natural emotion and given tools. What and how we deal with anger makes all the difference. Writing, listening to worship and calming music, singing hymns, reading uplifting words and walking are great. Thanks for sharing .

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    • See the main trick is to not react at that point of time when you want to the most. I know it’s difficult and I can understand that sometimes the circumstances are such that you can’t stop yourself. But it’s a learned behaviour just like our anger 🙂
      Good luck and take care. Thank you for stopping by.

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    • Thank you. I am glad you liked it. The long-term physical effects of uncontrolled anger include increased anxiety, high blood pressure and headache. Anger can be a positive and useful emotion, if it is expressed appropriately. Long-term strategies for anger management include regular exercise, learning relaxation techniques and counselling.


  2. Thank you for sharing this! I’ve only recently allowed myself to believe it’s okay to feel angry! It really helps to acknowledge it first instead of be ashamed of it! 🙏🏽

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    • People say it’s not good to be angry for your mental and physical health. But, the truth is that you will feel angry sometimes. You don’t need to feel guilty about it either. It’s okay to feel angry and being able to feel this particular emotion is a healthy thing for you to do. Emotions like sadness, guilt, fear, envy, and anger are an important part of your emotional intelligence.

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  3. Freeze plates of water so when you’re super pissed, you can throw them into the shower. It makes a great smashing sound, releases some pent up physical energy that’s helping to fuel that anger and nothing (or someone -including yourself. You’re a someone.)

    My mother had a saying about arguments. “When you’re arguing, don’t hit below the belt. But don’t wear yours around your forehead.”

    It’s ok if you’re a sensitive person. But it’s not fair to the rest of us if you run around the world without wearing any skin at all.

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