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Anxiety Prevention

As a family member or friend you are one of the people who see your loved ones – or speak to them on the phone – most regularly. As such, you are likely to notice when the people you care about are acting differently. You can pick up when they are not looking after themselves as well as they normally do. You will see things that most other people, including work colleagues, would not see. If you notice some changes in someone you care about, it could be that there is something really challenging happening in their life – like work stress, the pressure of job-hunting, or a relationship break-up.

If you are going to be vigilant to the wellbeing of those around you, then the following tips will be useful for you :

  • Let Them Talk – Be there for your loved one. Let them know they can talk with you about how they’re feeling. Show them that you’re not going to judge them.
  • Don’t get frustrated or Guilt Trip – There is no point getting frustrated, telling them to chill out in a rude fashion, ignoring them because they’re not being rational, or guilt trip them to get attention. Anxious people are aware that what they’re feeling is irrational, but it’s not possible to stop.
  • Spend Time – Letting them spend time with you will really help. It can cheer them up, distract theme and make them feel like they’re not alone in their struggles.
  • Don’t Focus on the Anxiety – Don’t always feel the need to talk about the anxiety. This may trigger people into thinking about it unnecessarily. Let them bring it up if they want to talk about it.
  • Let Them Know You’re Available – If you are available to talk to when your loved one is feeling anxious, this can be a great help. Even if it’s just talking on the phone, it can be a release and a distraction from the things that are bothering them.
  • Don’t Get Affected Too – Helping people with mental health disorders can often be hard. It’s important to recognise if stress and anxiety are affecting you as well, especially if you’re spending a lot of time with your anxious loved one.
  • Forgive Them – Anxiety is a turbulent beast which can make your loved ones think, feel, and act in ways we don’t agree with or understand. It can make them angry or irritable. Be forgiving, showing them you understand how they feel, even in their darkest moments.
  • Do Things Together – Doing activities together indoors and outdoors is a benefit for both you and your loved one. You will stay active with exercise, and doing fun things together will serve as a distraction to the stresses of life.
  • Be Proud – Let yourself be proud of them when you see improvements. Anxiety and depression can make people see life very negatively, so take any opportunity to commend them on doing well.

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    • I am glad you liked it. You might wonder, why don’t people come to see this pattern, of repeated episodes of fear which don’t lead to the feared outcome, and gradually lose their fear? The answer is this. They took these protective steps, and there was no catastrophe. They tend to believe that these steps “saved” them from a catastrophe. This thought makes them worry more about “the next time”. It convinces them that they are terribly vulnerable and must constantly protect themselves. These tips mentioned in the post can help.


    • Yes it is Ellie. It’s the protective steps which actually maintain and strengthen the Anxiety Trick. If you think you just narrowly escaped a catastrophe because you had your cellular phone, or a water bottle; or because you went back and checked the stove seven times; or because you plugged in your iPod and distracted yourself with some music, then you’re going to continue to feel vulnerable. And you’re going to get more stuck in the habit of “protecting” yourself by these means.


    • Yes it’s important to talk about it as it’s everywhere these days. Even in kids. Anxiety is rooted in our genetics but is also what we would consider a chronic lifestyle- related condition. Our kids are living unhealthy lifestyles. That’s probably the biggest factor. Forty percent of our children are sleep deprived because they are too busy, which is linked to anxiety and depression. Most of their schedule is highly structured activity that takes place indoors. Then, when they’re not in scheduled activities, there’s lots of academic pressure. Stress is everywhere and one of kids’ main coping skills is using technology, which means staying inside.

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    • Though not a treatment for anxiety disorders, the following tips can help reduce symptoms of anxiety: Take care of your body by eating a well-balanced diet. Include a multivitamin when you can’t always eat right. Limit alcohol, caffeine, and sugar consumption.

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  1. Nice post. In order to be in a position to help others we must first ensure we are right with ourselves. That may mean we have trodden the path, experienced the challenges and understood ways of getting through to the other end. For the past 5+ years people and organisations have been talking about ‘work/life balance’ but yet implemented this has proven to be a challenge. Work/balance starts at home – maybe a simple ‘sit around the table for a meal’ to begin with. Some will argue what about those who work irregular hours? Aim to do this once/twice a week to help. One of things we do at home is try and play a board game at least once a week. It’s family time, time away from electronics and builds competition. To spice it up, we’ll put small amounts of money (50p – £1) in the pot for the eventual winner! In truth we all need to have a balanced approach from home which we can then bring into our everyday life.

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    • These are great tips. Thank you for sharing them with us. I agree with your point that we all need to develop some amount of empathy for everything which is happening around us. We might not be able to control our external environment but with empathy we can control and protect our interval selves which is very very important.

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