Improve Your Relationships

How? You may ask. It’s simple, LISTEN.

Good listening can help tame your fear about relationships, meeting new people, lessen social anxiety, and boost your overall confidence. This is will help you not only meet new potential friends, but also depend all of your current relationships.

So here goes few listening techniques which you might want to incorporate into your lives unless you are happy alone :

  • Listen to Listen, not to Reply – Often we think about what we’re going to say next instead of really listening to the person we’re talking with. Give them your attention, and trust you brain to come up with a response when it’s time.
  • Pause before Responding – Giving a 2-3 second pause before responding allows someone the space to continue speaking and share what they really want to share.
  • Remember Individuality – We are all different people. When we enter a conversation knowing this, misunderstandings will happen much less often. We’ll learn to understand, rather than to judge.
  • Understand their Emotions – Empathy is a great way of doing this, but it’s not the only way. Try to increase your emotional intelligence.
  • Confused? Speak Up – None of us are perfect. If you’re confused, that’s okay. Just politely ask the person to repeat what they said.
  • Paraphrase – Paraphrasing is something I often use in coaching, but it works wonders in everyday relationships too.
  • Don’t give Advice – Unless they ask you, do not give advice. Unsolicited advice is a huge turn off. Sometimes we just need someone to talk to.

Listening is an art, it is a good virtue to have.

34 Comments Add yours

  1. Syd Weedon says:

    You are so wise. If there was one gift I could give to the whole world, it would be better listening skill.

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    1. Garima says:

      It is important Syd.

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  2. Darazizi says:

    Really great and helpful tips πŸ‘πŸΌ

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you. I am glad you liked them. Relationships are important to us. As humans, the relationships we form with other people are vital to our mental and emotional wellbeing, and really, our survival. A positive relationship can be shared between any two people who love, support, encourage and help each other practically as well as emotionally.

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  3. Nova says:

    Awesome post!! I’m absolutely going to implement what I can.

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    1. Garima says:

      Glad to hear that Nova. Relationships can make and break us. But we can do our part in making them and start listening.

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  4. I love this and totally agree! Thanks

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    1. Garima says:

      I am glad you liked it Sandra. The researchers have found that positive relationships protect people from the vicissitudes of life. They also help to delay mental and physical decline, and are a better predictor of long and happy lives than social class, education, IQ, or even genes.

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      1. Garima says:

        πŸ™‚πŸ™ƒ

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  5. Very succinct and insightful! The suggestions are beautifully simple and direct

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you Abhinav. Simple is not easy these days πŸ™‚ A key tenet of the Golden Rule is that how you act toward another person does not depend on how that individual acts toward you. In other words, you adhere to principles of secure functioning even when others don’t.

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  6. As an English teacher, it is so difficult to teach listening as a skill. It is definitely a lost art.

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  7. The last one just hit me, dnt give advice. I totally agree to it, people want us to just listen what they want to say 😊😊😊

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    1. Garima says:

      Yes Smita. We just need to learn to be good listening and also parallel develop healthy boundaries

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  8. Angelika Em says:

    Simple and true 😊 i love it

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    1. Garima says:

      All good things is life are simple πŸ™ƒ

      Like

  9. Vihani says:

    GREAT article Garima! Love all the information you have mentioned and I totally agree with you. If we respond in the right way, a lot of problems in relationships can be solved smoothly. Thank you very much for sharing this!

    Have a wonderful day 🌹

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you Vihani. Listening is a relationship skill most of us haven’t learned. Active listening is, if practiced and mastered, the best gift you can give your partner. Listening shows you are engaged and interested in what your partner has to say. Listening also entails paying attention to your own and your partner’s body language.

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  10. Nice tips to improve relationship.

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you Prakaash. I am glad you liked it.

      Like

  11. Thapelo says:

    Reblogged this on Thapelo Khalushi.

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you for the reblog.

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      1. Thapelo says:

        You’re welcome!!

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      2. Garima says:

        πŸ‘πŸΌ

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      3. Thapelo says:

        😎

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  12. Haroon Mirza says:

    Wonderful and inspiring

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    1. Garima says:

      Glad you liked it. Communication is the determining factor of success for every relationship. It’s nice to ask how your partner’s day went, but it’s boring when you ask over and over again. Enhance your conversation by putting in the extra effort to question your significant other on something more specific. Through this adjusted approach, you avoid falling into routine and begin holding more meaningful discussions.

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      1. Haroon Mirza says:

        You are awesome thanks

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      2. Garima says:

        Hahahha thank you πŸ™πŸΌπŸ˜‚

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