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Reasons for Being Unsuccessful

There is loads of information out there that focus on matters of success and achievement along with the techniques to get you there. But while there is much information about what leads to success there isn’t much about the major causes of failure. These are equally important to know and understand if we want to be successful.

Here are some common reasons why people are unsuccessful :

  • Laziness – I don’t think there’s an easy way to put this. I have to assume that you’re lazy. Every single successful person works their butts off to get where they are. It’s ok to be lazy. Just admit it. But don’t whine about not being rich and successful, ok?
  • Entitlement – Only a few people in the world are part of the lucky sperm club. You and me? We gotta work to get what we want? Quit thinking you are coward something. You’re not. Get to work.
  • Fear – You are afraid, plain and simple. Afraid of looking silly. Afraid of what your friends and family will say. Afraid of everything. Look, you’re either going to stop being afraid, or you’re not. Nobody can convince you to stop. Imagine though, what awaits you when you stop with the fear excuses?
  • Negativity – You may not realise it, but the people you associate with might be negative. They could be soul sucking beings who don’t want anyone to be successful. Get rid of them, now! Surround yourself with successful people. People you want to be like.
  • Stop Thinking – How much do you want to bet you have paralysis by analysis? You think way too much about what you could or should do. Doers get what they want, and everyone else gets what they get. Stop analysing and start doing.
  • No Goals – You plan nothing. You believe that someway, somehow, everything you always wanted will just magically happen. So you “play it by ear” and wait. You need goals to shoot for. Otherwise, you’re just treading water.
  • “They” – There’s no “they”. There’s no secret group of people that controls your success or failure. You’ve made that up to make you feel better about yourself. The truth is you, and you alone, control your success in life/business/everything. It’s easy to blame “them” though, isn’t it? Weak.
  • No “X” factor – You can’t do it because you’re not pretty enough. Or don’t have a strong personality? You don’t have the “X” factor? Wow, what an unbelievably lame excuse. The truth is even jerks, idiots and boring people can be just as successful as anyone else. Your problem is you don’t believe it yet.
  • Waste Time – You’re a classic time-waster. You spend hours and hours every day working on not working. You do things that aren’t productive. How are you ever going to get anything done, or reach any goal if you keep wasting time? You’re not. SO you might as well give up now if you’re going to keep this path.
  • Social Bullshit – You spend way too much time in social media land. You waste probably about 50% of your productive hours of the day doing this. The sad part is, you know it, but you can’t stop. So you can’t get anything done that matters.
  • Think Small – You think way too small. You are constantly looking only a day or a week ahead instead of years ahead. Because of this, you never get anywhere, and you never lead; you always follow.
  • Don’t Want It – You don’t really want to be successful. Sure, you like to dream about it like everyone else. But in your heart you are afraid of what might happen if you really get it. That’s bullshit fear your brain is feeding you. Success is change, and it feels really, really good. Tell your brain to shut the stupidity up.
  • Don’t Believe – You never believed that it’s possible. Society taught you that only a few “exceptional” people get what they want. Everyone else should just settle. If you really want to believe that, go ahead. The rest of us will be at the front of the line because we believe.

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  1. Harsh much? I find this post a little offensive and over-generalized. However, I’m still going to like your post because you made some valid points which can’t be ignored.

    Last year I experienced failure which was very difficult for me. I worked my butt off and STILL failed. I don’t think that working hard and framing big necessarily correlates to “success”. Remember that every person’s circumstances are unique to their own experiences and situations.

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  2. This is very difficult to read, but necessary. Some of us, myself included, don’t realize the privileges we have, and so we stay inside a little bubble, comfortable in our mediocrity. Sure, for some people, the circumstances might not be so favorable. But we have to do our best with what we have, and help others when needed. I like this post. It’s a wake up call. As always, thanks for sharing.

    P.S. Sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language.

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  3. You have raised some very valid points within this blog. I totally agree with you about being around positive and successful people helps in a lot of ways and negativity certainly keeps people feeling useless and unappreciated.
    I do however think that we measure success in many different ways, financial, family, employment, the number of followers we may have etc. but I do believe that it is a very personal thing.
    I certainly see my life has being more successful now than I have ever done and yet I had the trappings of success within my career, today I have very few close friends but I like it that way, I have a good and honest relationship with my Fiancee and plan to get married within the next year, I have a good relationship with my daughter who I was estranged from for many years and my family relationships are good along with my relationship with the Almighty who I rely on heavily and who has helped me through some very difficult times.
    This to me is my version of success and I am more than happy with it.
    I wish you well in your future endeavours.

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    • Gratitude all the way Paul. This is inspiring indeed. Several studies have shown that practicing gratitude has definite psychological and even physical benefits. When you feel gratitude, it can increase your feelings of vitality and optimism and reduces feelings of depression, while also giving your overall well-being a boost.

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  4. God list. I agree with some and others, I think could have been more explained as there are other factors too. Might sound harsh at first, but I think if someone is really looking for success and unintentionally missing out on it because of any of these reasons, it might prompt them to improve.

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    • According to Shiv Khera, author of You Can Win, failures most often occur for one of seven reasons. And Harvey Mackay, best-selling author and business speaker, says each one can teach us something valuable, can show us how to avoid falling back into the same hole. Apologies if you found the post harsh, it was written as a scolding from one BFF to another 🙂

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  5. Yes, I agree with some of the other statements; harshness and bluntness are sometimes required especially when you momentarily feeling the struggle. On the other hand, introspectively look at the real issues deeply as to why you feel the need to be so sharp. Plus so many details are missing in order for a step by step system to overcome. And many great books out there depict these steps. And yet, sometimes just the quick notes to depict how you feel to release the tension.
    I love your words of encouragement too.
    Keep up the great work…

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    • Thank you Allen. What I see most common problems is Poor self-esteem or lack of self-respect and self-worth. People with low self-confidence are constantly trying to find themselves rather than creating the person they want to be. Don’t label yourself. You might have failed, but you’re not a failure until you stop trying.

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