Subtle Signs of Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is the silent monster in our midst, occurring in neighbours and loved ones homes more than we realise. It is a tragic situation that’s a daily reality for millions. A widespread illegal activity is being ignored when people are victimised in their own homes. What emotional abusers are doing to their victims is criminal and has to be stopped.

Here are a few subtle signs of emotional abuse :

  • Intensity – Excessive charm, lying to over up insecurity, needing to win over your friends and family immediately, over the top gestures that seem too much too soon, bombarding you with numerous texts and emails in a short time, behaving obsessively insisting that you get serious immediately.
  • Jealously – Responding irrationally when you interact with other people, becoming angry when you speak with the opposite sex, persistently accusing you of flirting, cheating, resenting your time with friends and family or demanding to know private details of your life.
  • Control – Telling how to wear your hair, when to speak or what to think, showing up uninvited at your home/school/job, checking your cell phone, emails, Facebook, going through your belongings, following you, sexually coercing you or making you feel bad about yourself.
  • Isolation – Insisting you only spend time with him or her, making you emotionally or psychologically dependent, preventing you from seeing your family or friends, or from going to work.
  • Criticism – Calling you overweight, ugly, stupid or crazy, ridiculing your beliefs, ambitions or friends, telling you he or she is the only one who really cares about you, brainwashing you to feel worthless.
  • Sabotage – Making you miss work, school, an interview, test or competition by starting a fight, having a meltdown or getting sick, breaking up with you or hiding your keys, wallet, text books or phone, stealing your belongings.
  • Blame – Making you feel guilty and responsible for his or her behaviour, blaming the world or you for his or her problems, emotional manipulation, always saying “this is your fault”.
  • Anger – Overreacting to small problems, frequently losing control, violent outbursts, having severe mood swings, drinking or partying excessively when upset, making threats, picking fights, having a history of violent behaviour and making you feel afraid.

32 Comments Add yours

    1. Garima says:

      Subtle signs but so real.

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      1. Homa Shineyi says:

        Definitely, That’s why I liked it

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  1. Mateo says:

    Very real!

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  2. Amartya says:

    Thanks for writing this!

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    1. Garima says:

      Most welcome Amartya. I wish such people did not exist, ones that aur emotional abuse to feed their insecurities. But sadly they do.

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      1. Amartya says:

        Yes, all we can do be is aware. Sometimes we cannot be too careful, but certainly we should know when to stop.

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      2. Garima says:

        Yes it’s important.

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  3. Interesting a not very talked about, the amount of emotional abuse going on in society is terrible. People need to be able to stand up for themselves, sadly that is very difficult. I encourage those victims to stand their ground.

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    1. Garima says:

      Yes, tolerating emotional abuse invites more abuse. One must have the courage to move on.

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  4. It is so important to pay a keep attention to such signs. Thank you for sharing this. 🙂

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    1. Garima says:

      Most welcome.

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  5. Youneverknow says:

    True

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  6. I have, literally, faced 7 of the 8 things you listed.

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    1. Garima says:

      We all have fallen into that trap sometime or another.

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  7. Really powerful post. Sadly many, many people will likely be suffering emotional abuse during lockdown, so a very apt time to post this.

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    1. Garima says:

      Yes condescending tones are very common.

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  8. These all things occur in a series to be specific, sometimes, we can crack the series and find what next is in the chain, but if we’re unable to crack the case becomes quite critical. An amazing viewpoint I must say. Keep up the good work!

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you. I am glad you liked it.

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  9. Frank LaManna says:

    I hate emotional abuse I cant stand it. Dont forget loaded questions and manipulation..

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  10. Belladonna says:

    I felt this!!!!

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    1. Garima says:

      Yup it’s quite real.

      Liked by 1 person

  11. What if you know it is a case of mental abuse but you do not have a way out?

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    1. Garima says:

      If you know it then have to courage to seek help.

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      1. Comfort says:

        How would a child enduring emotional abuse from a parent deal with this? They are pretty much trapped.

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      2. Garima says:

        Yes it’s usually the teachers at school who can capture the subtle signs. However it is very important to teach a child about good and bad behaviour. We need to raise confident kids who have the ability to say no.

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  12. gpavants says:

    Garima,

    Oh, and that picture breaks my heart. It’s s good reminder, especially now to be kind, tender, patient, etc. with everyone especially our family. Isn’t that our faith in action?

    Thanks,

    Gary

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    1. Garima says:

      Yes Gary, Faith in Action does wonderful work.

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  13. طيف says:

    that was amazing article

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