Emotional abuse is the silent monster in our midst, occurring in neighbours and loved ones homes more than we realise. It is a tragic situation that’s a daily reality for millions. A widespread illegal activity is being ignored when people are victimised in their own homes. What emotional abusers are doing to their victims is criminal and has to be stopped.
Here are a few subtle signs of emotional abuse :
- Intensity – Excessive charm, lying to over up insecurity, needing to win over your friends and family immediately, over the top gestures that seem too much too soon, bombarding you with numerous texts and emails in a short time, behaving obsessively insisting that you get serious immediately.
- Jealously – Responding irrationally when you interact with other people, becoming angry when you speak with the opposite sex, persistently accusing you of flirting, cheating, resenting your time with friends and family or demanding to know private details of your life.
- Control – Telling how to wear your hair, when to speak or what to think, showing up uninvited at your home/school/job, checking your cell phone, emails, Facebook, going through your belongings, following you, sexually coercing you or making you feel bad about yourself.
- Isolation – Insisting you only spend time with him or her, making you emotionally or psychologically dependent, preventing you from seeing your family or friends, or from going to work.
- Criticism – Calling you overweight, ugly, stupid or crazy, ridiculing your beliefs, ambitions or friends, telling you he or she is the only one who really cares about you, brainwashing you to feel worthless.
- Sabotage – Making you miss work, school, an interview, test or competition by starting a fight, having a meltdown or getting sick, breaking up with you or hiding your keys, wallet, text books or phone, stealing your belongings.
- Blame – Making you feel guilty and responsible for his or her behaviour, blaming the world or you for his or her problems, emotional manipulation, always saying “this is your fault”.
- Anger – Overreacting to small problems, frequently losing control, violent outbursts, having severe mood swings, drinking or partying excessively when upset, making threats, picking fights, having a history of violent behaviour and making you feel afraid.