To become more self-aware you have to be self-aware enough to realize how self-aware you are not. It’s a bootstrapping problem. Unless something happens that forces you to realize how inaccurate your view of yourself is, you can go through life never even knowing who you are.
We all tend to reject negative things we hear in favor of positive ones, even if the negative ones are more accurate. Learning about our blind spots, weaknesses or insecurities is emotionally difficult. Here are a few ways in which you can develop self awareness :
- Look at yourself objectively. Try to identify your current understanding by writing out your perceptions.
- Keep a journal. This will help you get a better idea of who you are and what you are and what you want out of life right now.
- Write down your goals, plans and priorities. Plan out your goals in a worksheet so they turn from ideas into a step-by step process.
- Perform daily self reflection. Start by setting aside just 15 minutes each day. Find a quiet place to think.
- Practice meditation and other mindfulness habits. Meditation is the practice of improving your mindful awareness.
- Take personality and psychometric tests. These tests compel respondents to think about a set of traits of characteristics that closely describe them relative to other people.
- Ask trusted friends to describe you. Make sure your friends know that they are doing this to help you, not to hurt you.
- Ask for feedback at work. Provided it is constructive and well done having an option for formalised feedback allows you to self reflect on our own strengths and weaknesses.