How I Stopped Spiraling at 2AM and Started Building a Life That Feels Good and Pays the WiFi Bill

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A few months ago, I had what I like to call a “laundry basket breakdown.”

You know the kind—where you’re halfway through folding socks and suddenly asking questions like:

What is the point of all this?

Why am I doing work that drains me?

Why am I stuck in a life that feels like it belongs to someone else—with better handwriting and a stronger caffeine tolerance?

So I did what any semi-responsible adult having a quarter-life or third-life crisis would do:

I opened my Notes app, titled it “Figuring Out My Life,” and started typing.

That’s how this “purpose-driven but financially-not-irresponsible” framework was born.

It’s not perfect.

But it helped me get out of autopilot and into alignment—without quitting my job to live in a yurt. Yet.

Step 1: Audit Your Joy (and Misery)

I started with a brutally honest joy audit.

Every day for two weeks, I wrote down:

• What gave me energy

• What drained the life out of me

• What I actually looked forward to

Spoiler: Long walks with a podcast = joy.

Zoom calls about slide decks = inner death.

To do this in style, I got this gorgeous Papier Daily Planner. It’s thick, luxurious, and has the kind of aesthetic that makes you want to write things down.

No basic spiral notebook energy here.

Step 2: Name Your “Why” Without Cringing

I always thought finding my “purpose” would feel like getting struck by lightning.

Instead, it came from answering one very chill (but kinda deep) question:

“If I had five years left, what would I regret not doing, saying, or becoming?”

I scribbled ideas onto Post-it Super Sticky Notes in Earth Tones and stuck them all over my closet door like a chaotic vision board.

Every day I moved things around.

Eventually, three themes emerged:

• I want to write stuff that feels real and makes people feel less alone

• I want my days to feel mine, not like I’m on someone else’s hamster wheel

• I want money freedom without hating my life

Nothing revolutionary.

But it was mine.

Step 3: Find the Overlap: What You Love vs. What Pays

I drew a Venn diagram on the back of an old birthday card:

• Things I love

• Things I’m good at

• Things people will actually pay me for

Where it overlapped: writing, emotional coaching, simplifying complex stuff.

To sharpen my skills (and not sound like a journaling teen on LinkedIn), I grabbed Everybody Writes by Ann Handley.

It’s basically a Bible for content creators who want to sound smart and human.

And because I was craving more than books, I also invested in a legit learning setup:

This Apple iPad Air + Magic Keyboard setup turned my couch into a mobile content studio.

Perfect for side hustling between Netflix episodes.

Step 4: Build Rituals That Actually Fit Your Life

Once I had clarity, I realized I needed structure—not hustle-culture overload, just a little scaffolding to protect my energy.

Enter: “Lazy-Girl CEO Mornings”

Here’s the setup that changed everything:

1. A warm mug of Four Sigmatic Mushroom Coffee (it has adaptogens and doesn’t give me the caffeine crash)

2. 10 minutes with the Moleskine Smart Writing Set — it digitizes my handwritten notes and makes me feel like a tech witch

3. Playing Lofi Beats on this Bose SoundLink Revolve+ II speaker while setting my intention

Was I becoming “that girl”? Yes.

Was I mad about it? Absolutely not.

Step 5: Test-Drive a Purpose Idea Without Quitting Your Job Yet

Before jumping into a new life, I gave my ideas a little weekend trial run.

I started offering copywriting services through Fiverr, and posted a few TikToks just to see if anyone cared.

(They did. One video got 20K views and two weird DMs, so…success?)

My whole setup was under $300, and it felt luxurious:

Blue Yeti USB Mic for podcasting and voiceovers

Neewer Ring Light Kit to look awake in Zooms and on Reels

Secretlab TITAN Evo Gaming Chair because back pain is not the vibe

The trick is not to make it perfect. Just make it exist.

Step 6: Revisit, Reflect, and Refine

Life changes. You change. Your purpose will too.

So every month, I do a little reset.

I pull out this Quartet Glass Dry Erase Board and write down:

• What felt aligned

• What felt off

• What bills I paid with joy-driven work (even if it’s just the gas bill)

It’s weirdly fun. And it keeps me from drifting into burnout disguised as ambition.

Also, if you like feeling like a full-on adult, invest in this Uplift Standing Desk.

I thought it was just influencer hype, but now my body and brain thank me daily.

Final Thoughts

Living a purpose-driven life that also pays the bills doesn’t require a trust fund or a TED Talk.

It just takes:

• Paying attention to your joy

• Getting honest about your skills

• Taking small, meaningful steps that compound over time

You don’t have to move to a cabin in the woods.

You don’t need 100k followers.

You just need to believe that your unique mix of quirks, skills, and passions is worth building a life around.

So the next time you’re folding laundry at 2AM wondering “Is this it?”

Take a deep breath.

Grab a good pen.

And start sketching a life that actually feels like yours.

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3 responses to “Soulful… But Make It Pay: A Lazy-Girl Framework for a Purpose-Driven Life (That Also Covers Rent)”

  1. Great stuff to hear about, pretty good

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  2. Thanks for writing this, Garina. It came on a day I really needed to read this! 😀❤️🌹❌️

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  3. Garima,

    You’re blog has totally changed since coming to America. It is a different world here. Hope you get the best of what the US.

    Gary

    Gary Avants Forbear Productions * *garyavants66@gmail.com garyavants66@gmail.com

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