I’ve always envied people who can graciously accept constructive criticism. It seems I was not born with that trait, and throughout my career I’ve struggled with receiving feedback, even when it was entirely accurate. At the moment I hear the words of critique, my heartbeat quickens and my mind begins to race—first in search of an explanation for this assault on my person and then for a retort to rationalise whatever actions are in question. Truth be told, I am not alone in feeling like this.
This can be damaging both for our physical and mental health and hence here are some steps which will help you take criticism in a healthy way :
- Listen to everyone, no matter how painful.
- Acknowledge good points made by the other side.
- Admit when you make mistakes and learn from them.
- You can disagree without being disrespectful.
- Depersonalise criticism by not identifying with it.
- Remember not everyone knows what is best for you.
- Anyone who has done anything great has critics.
- Know the difference between your core values and when you just being stubborn.
- Try your best to never resort to personal attacks on insults.
- You can understand another person’s views without necessarily agreeing with them.
- Consider some criticism necessary for growth.
- Actively encourage others to give healthy critiques.
- Taking criticism like a champ ultimately takes practice and experience.