RESPECT YOURSELF Better Than Barack Obama

I’d seen and read many articles about Mark Manson’s book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k, but I’d never picked it up from the shelf to read it myself. The gist of it (from what I read in the articles) is to care about the things that truly matter to you, rather than what most people want for themselves and others, which is quantified by having more money and luxury. I thought the title of the book was sufficient to convey its message, but if not, this is the most basic way I can explain it to you. What you’re about to read is more focused on self-respect and valuing your own opinions over those of others. I mentioned Mark Manson’s book because the inspiration for this came from it, and I thought it would be nice to acknowledge him even though I’ve never read it and it’s unlikely he’ll read this article.

Step 1: Recognize valid points of view.
This is the most straightforward step. We are humans, and we share our thoughts on everything because it helps us form bonds, which we thrive on. The closer your relationship, the more valuable their opinion is to you. You value their opinion because you know what they’re up to. When giving you feedback, they will give you constructive criticism, and when forming an opinion on you, they will make their intentions clear. They will not do anything to harm you. These are the people you should listen to, just like your family and closest friends.

Step 2: Recognize invalid points of view.
This is the simplest step, I promise. This should be simple because it is common sense. When we consider other people’s opinions, we often compare them to our own, and we frequently value other people’s opinions over our own. You may believe you did yourself a favour by telling them you don’t care about their opinion, but this only demonstrates that you care more. To demonstrate your lack of concern, do not speak out against it. Self-respect is when you recognise that no one knows you better than yourself and that your opinion about yourself should be valued more than someone you don’t know well or even if you do.

Step 3: Recognize that no one is better than you and that you are better than no one.
This is challenging. Many of us grew up in a competitive environment and were taught that life is a race. It really isn’t; it is up to you to recognise your own potential, not your teachers, friends, or even your parents. To see your own potential, you must set aside opinions and criticism from those who do not wish you well. This includes your teachers; I’ve had teachers say horrible things about me to my face since first grade, but I couldn’t care less because they don’t know everything about me and formed opinions based on one aspect they saw in me. This is how you begin to respect yourself; you recognise that no one is truly better than you because they are all unique, just as you are. So don’t waste time comparing yourself to someone who is doing something entirely different.

Put these three steps together, and you can now officially respect yourself according to someone else’s definition of self-respect. You listen to those who respect you and ignore those who don’t, and you realise that only you can see your true potential. Maintaining consistency with these steps will help you become more self-aware and possibly form a stronger bond with yourself.

Hi, I’m Garima and I write about life experiences. I have several books available on Amazon. Check them out today! Any purchases or KDP reads will be greatly appreciated. If you like my books, do leave a review. Here’s my author page on Amazon –


8 Comments Add yours

  1. Ben Johnson says:

    I just finished this book and it was eye-opening. The title is catchy but the information will resonate with your soul.

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    1. GS says:

      Loved it!!

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Flowerpoet says:

    Wise words. Beautiful post. 💖✨

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Thank you

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  3. gpavants says:

    Hi Garima,

    Good to hear from you. Hope you are good., I am too. Just plugging away. Always learning, always learning.

    Gary ,

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    1. GS says:

      Hey Gary, it’s so nice to hear from you. I am getting by, taking each day as it comes.


      1. gpavants says:

        You, too Garima. Hope all is well. Crazy stuff we rarely get snow in Southern California, but we were hit hard this past week. Things come out of the blue sometimes.

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      2. GS says:

        I know you are taking care of yourself Gary. It’s been amazing seeing you go through various stages of life over the years and keep going strong. I look upto you always. Take care!!!

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