The truth will set you free, but it will also hurt like hell.
“The hardest thing to explain is the glaringly obvious which everybody has decided not to see,” the infamous Ayn Rand once said. You don’t want to accept certain harsh truths because most harsh truths focus entirely on…you. In short, life isn’t fair, and you can choose whether to accept it or fight it.
Let’s look at a few ramifications of the fact that life isn’t fair.
The world will never stop prodding you.
Most people make the mistake of believing that it will be completed one day. They reason, “If I work hard enough, I’ll be able to relax one day.” “I’m only doing this now so that one day I can do what I really want to do with my life,” for example. The […] error is to believe that things will eventually change fundamentally. They will not. It never comes to an end. As long as life exists, the creative challenge is to wrestle, play, and fall in love with the present moment while giving your one-of-a-kind gift. — Deida, David
Have you ever felt as if your circumstances were attempting to break you down?
Your car breaks down just as you’ve begun to improve your financial situation. You get out of bed on the wrong side of the bed, go to work with a nagging boss, and come home to an uninterested spouse. Every step forward is followed by three steps back. Something or someone will always try to knock you down just as you’re on the rise. If only life would give you a break, you tell yourself, you’d have enough energy to make an effort to succeed. Deep down, you believe that success will provide an escape from life’s difficulties. You reason that if you had enough money, freedom, and positive experiences in your life, the nonsense would stop. It does not and will never do.
But, when viewed correctly, there is beauty in life’s struggle. When life puts you to the test, you have the opportunity to demonstrate your toughness.
Knowing how strong you are provides one of the deepest levels of satisfaction. Few memories are better than those of triumphing over adversity, persevering, absorbing pressure, and turning it into fuel rather than allowing it to break you. Knowing that the world will constantly put you to the test removes the element of surprise.
Things will never be as they “ought” to be.
“We unconsciously imprison ourselves in order to avoid our most primal fears. We choose Should because Must is frightening and incomprehensible.” – Luna, Elle
Should — what a simultaneously dangerous and useless word. People frequently use ‘should’ to justify not doing something or to complain about an unchangeable circumstance. A perfect world — one without inequality, injustice, unfairness, superficial people, hatred, greed, envy, lust, and so on — does not exist. Are you using the world to escape reality?
Perhaps you believe you should be earning more money. But you aren’t, and believing you should be will not change that. A new job could change all of that. Improving your performance and negotiating a raise may be able to change that. Complaining will not help. Maybe you believe you shouldn’t have to work twice as hard as someone else to achieve the same level of success. But what if you have to double your efforts? Will you wait for the scales of justice to balance? They will not. Again, you are free to complain, but complaining is not a strategy. It makes no difference. The same energy that you use to rail against how life should or should not be could be used to help others.
Nobody will come to your aid.
“Sure, raise the minimum wage if you intend to work there for the rest of your life.” Jim Rohn’s
When was the last time the government stepped in to help you? The answer is almost certainly never. But we treat it as if it were a saviour or a demon, when it is neither. It’s a piece of machinery. A heartless machine driven solely by self-interest. Regardless, we make our way to the polls to ensure that our candidate wins. Examine your own life. Has it changed dramatically between presidencies, not just in terms of news coverage or your feelings about the president, but in your day-to-day life?
Are you expecting your boss to save you with a raise or to magically improve your working environment? If this is the case, you may be in for a long wait. It’s easy to blame the government, your boss, or someone else for your problems. It’s easier to say wages should be higher than to try to become more valuable. I’m not claiming that society’s institutions are just. They most emphatically are not. You don’t have time to wait for institutions to save you in your fast-paced life.
It’s all your fault.
“If you could kick the person responsible for most of your problems in the pants, you wouldn’t sit for a month.”
I understand what you’re thinking. You were born poor, your parents did not treat you well, you have a disability, a funny accent, you live in the wrong city, you’re sick, your boss despises you, you don’t have any money, you’re a disabled veteran, you’re black, a woman, gay, or trans. You are unique. And, because your circumstances are so unique, you cannot be held responsible for your failures.
We know we’re the common denominator in all of our problems, but it’s difficult to admit. Why?
Because it implies that we are the ones who must change our circumstances. And if we do nothing to change our circumstances, we can only blame ourselves. Nobody wants to think they’re the only real barrier to their own success, happiness, and well-being. It’s easier to point the finger at someone or something else.
No, I don’t believe you’re lazy, mediocre, or “don’t want it bad enough.” Taking full control of your life is extremely difficult. It can be unpleasant or even painful. Because your brain wants to protect you from harm and danger, the natural reaction is to blame someone other than yourself. However, you can overcome these obstacles. You have complete control over your life.
Do you have control over what happens to you? No, but you have control over how you respond to what happens to you. You choose how to react to situations, perhaps not fully and consciously, but you do choose.
You’ll Never Find the Optimal Start Time
“Twenty years ago was the best time to plant a tree. Now is the second best time.” — From a proverb
When I was 17, I knew I wanted to be a writer. I didn’t begin until I was 25 years old. Perhaps I was too immature to write anything worthwhile until I’d lived a little, but I still wonder how much further along I could be now if I’d started sooner.
Did I declare my intention to become a writer, buy a typewriter, and lock myself in a room for hours to write? No. I began with one blog post… Since then, I’ve been writing nearly every day. Starting is powerful. Starting a new project doesn’t have to be a big deal; just do it. What are you even waiting for?
Are you waiting for your children to mature or move out so you can write that book? When he wrote War and Peace, Leo Tolstoy had 13 children. Are you waiting for the right amount of money to start your business?
If you have a good idea, there are several ways to start a business for little or no money. Oh, it’s difficult to find seed money? Starting a business is difficult. Take care of it. All salespeople understand that the phrase “now isn’t the right time” is a lie. Behind every polite objection, such as a lack of time, money, or ideal circumstances, there is always a hidden objection. The way you talk to yourself is similar to the relationship between a salesperson and a customer. You politely excuse yourself, but the truth is that there is a deeper issue.
What exactly is it? You may not have even considered it consciously. You might actually believe your own polite excuses. You will never change unless you dig deep to uncover the hidden reasons for your behaviour. The world is filled with noise. A lot of nonsense. By seeing through it all, you can achieve success. You can either wait for the world to change to your ideal state, or you can learn to navigate it. People who are successful can see through the limits that society imposes on them, through the cliches that aren’t true, and through the joy-sucking prisons known as institutions.
Can you see anything now?
I hope you decide to shape your future decisions through the lens of truth. It won’t feel good right away, but it will feel amazing when you look back at everything you’ve accomplished.
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