Stop Wasting Opportunities

Self – Doubt plaques us all. It’s only natural to question ourselves from time to time. But when you continually let it stop you doing or saying the things you know you should, it becomes a mental barrier to gaining self-confidence.

  1. Deal with the Voice – Ask yourself, when was the last time someone questioned your opinion? When were you last wrong? Often, when I ask this question to people who doubt themselves, there’s a silence. They can’t think of a situation. it’s irrational to make the assumption you’re wrong if you can’t remember it happening before. So, prepare yourself for the voice that will try to stop you. If you are aware that the “voice” if waiting to hijack you, You’ll be in a stronger position to stop it. Be super-aware the next time you sense self-doubt creeping in, and then literally exclude the voice. Do not allow it a say in the matter. Block out the “what-ifs”.
  2. Get it There – Don’t Wait – Don’t wait for someone to invite you to get involved or share your thoughts. People who doubt themselves often expect an invitation to speak. If you have something to say, say it. Don’t overthink it. You have as much right to speak as anyone else. Remind yourself that people will respect you more for sharing your thoughts, even if they disagree with you. Be clear about how you look and sound too. If you make use of your voice, facial expressions and hands it will make a huge difference to how you come across to people. Good body language makes a massive difference, particularly when you first introduce yourself. You can project real confidence by making some subtle adjustments. Being able to control how you look and sound will boost your confidence and encourage you to speak up.
  3. Think Straight – Consider the worst case scenario, think to yourself – “what’s the worst that can happen?” Id it really going to be that bad? If you doubt yourself, your default position will be to expect the worst. Counteract this by trying to think of the last time something catastrophic happened as a result of you doing or saying something. It’s unlikely you’ll be able to recall such a catastrophe. Your imagination is fooling you. Stop past failures getting in your way. Squeeze what you can from ay failures you’ve had and then set them aside. Bad memories are often the reason why you stop yourself doing things. You can’t expel these experiences from your mind completely but with disciplined thinking, you should be able to put them to the back of your mind so that they don’t interfere with your decision making. 

13 Comments Add yours

  1. I love your first tip and the questions you suggest asking yourself. It’s definitely something I will try with myself and others 😊

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    1. Thank you. I am glad you liked them. It is very important to ask us these questions every now and then. They keep us grounded and on track to our purpose in life.

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  2. You have the best reminders. Always so timely and applicable to my life! Thank you! 🙂

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    1. Thank you Eve. I am glad you like them. I am planning to start some modules on self growth. Do you think our blog friends would be interested to read them?

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      1. Thank you 🙏🏼


  3. gpavants says:

    Hi Garima,

    We do fight our negative voices and how I hate it. Thank the Lord for His voice and encouraging words from others when the junk enters my thoughts. Hope you get some victory there, too.

    Thank you,


    On Thu, Mar 28, 2019 at 10:47 PM Be Inspired..!! wrote:

    > empress2inspire posted: “Self – Doubt plaques us all. It’s only natural to > question ourselves from time to time. But when you continually let it stop > you doing or saying the things you know you should, it becomes a mental > barrier to gaining self-confidence. Deal with the Voice ” >

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  4. iamvhardik says:

    Your first tip really helps. I am the one who questions myself the most. Everything always happens in the head and I more often skip those things. Thanks for giving the confidence 🙂

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    1. Garima says:

      Hardik, this inner voice is very important. While a certain amount of worry is to be expected in a transition, it is important to question how much of our concern and doubt is natural and how much is the result of an internalized critic referred to as the critical inner voice. The critical inner voice represents an internal enemy and may be thought of as a threat to self-actualization and self-fulfillment. It tends to foster inwardness, distrust, self-criticism, self-denial and limitation, addiction, and a generalized retreat from one’s goal-directed activity. Internalized attacks affect every aspect of a person’s life: mood and psychological state of mind, attitudes and prejudices, personal relationships, mate selection, style of relating to others, choice of school or career, and work performance.

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  5. Vihani says:

    I totally agree with you. Sometimes we fear so much about things that truly have a very little possibility of happening. Self doubt is something we must carefully look after since it can be a barrier which stops us from putting ourselves out there in the world and experiencing amazing opportunities. Thank you very much for sharing this post which is really inspiring Garima!

    Merry Christmas 🎄

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    1. Garima says:

      I am glad my post resonated with you Vihani. Apply the 5-Second Rule – I saw this technique recently, pioneered by Mel Robbins, and was blown away. I highly encourage you to check it out. The premise is simple, Mel argues that we all have a small window of time (5 seconds) to decide if we “feel like” doing something. After that, it’s impossibly hard to convince yourself to do it. She says in her TEDx Talk: “If you don’t start doing the things you don’t feel like doing, you will wake up one year from today and be in exactly the same place.” This premise is powerful. Make the small, easy decisions simpler than you do now. Again, goes back to not wasting more time.

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