Self – Doubt plaques us all. It’s only natural to question ourselves from time to time. But when you continually let it stop you doing or saying the things you know you should, it becomes a mental barrier to gaining self-confidence.
- Deal with the Voice – Ask yourself, when was the last time someone questioned your opinion? When were you last wrong? Often, when I ask this question to people who doubt themselves, there’s a silence. They can’t think of a situation. it’s irrational to make the assumption you’re wrong if you can’t remember it happening before. So, prepare yourself for the voice that will try to stop you. If you are aware that the “voice” if waiting to hijack you, You’ll be in a stronger position to stop it. Be super-aware the next time you sense self-doubt creeping in, and then literally exclude the voice. Do not allow it a say in the matter. Block out the “what-ifs”.
- Get it There – Don’t Wait – Don’t wait for someone to invite you to get involved or share your thoughts. People who doubt themselves often expect an invitation to speak. If you have something to say, say it. Don’t overthink it. You have as much right to speak as anyone else. Remind yourself that people will respect you more for sharing your thoughts, even if they disagree with you. Be clear about how you look and sound too. If you make use of your voice, facial expressions and hands it will make a huge difference to how you come across to people. Good body language makes a massive difference, particularly when you first introduce yourself. You can project real confidence by making some subtle adjustments. Being able to control how you look and sound will boost your confidence and encourage you to speak up.
- Think Straight – Consider the worst case scenario, think to yourself – “what’s the worst that can happen?” Id it really going to be that bad? If you doubt yourself, your default position will be to expect the worst. Counteract this by trying to think of the last time something catastrophic happened as a result of you doing or saying something. It’s unlikely you’ll be able to recall such a catastrophe. Your imagination is fooling you. Stop past failures getting in your way. Squeeze what you can from ay failures you’ve had and then set them aside. Bad memories are often the reason why you stop yourself doing things. You can’t expel these experiences from your mind completely but with disciplined thinking, you should be able to put them to the back of your mind so that they don’t interfere with your decision making.