Make Good Friends

Cultivating lasting, loving friendships takes time and effort; however, I cannot impress on you how important the investment in friends is, in both good times and bad. Here are some ways to create and cultivate lasting friendships:

  1. Set Boundaries – Know what is a big no-no for you and tell your friends that.  You have every right to set and assert your boundaries.
  2. Look for Shared Values – The best friends have close values. embrace differences, but make sure the core way you see that world is similar. The important stuff. 
  3. Don’t Settle for Just Anyone – Part of finding good friends means not settling for someone just because you are lonely. Accept some alone time as a part of making new relationships. 
  4. Walk Away from Toxicity – Sometimes the best friendships form after we walk away from those not good for us. Don’t be afraid to leave those note treating you well. 
  5. Be An Open Book – Good friendships require a certain level of vulnerability. it’s okay to share some of your hurts and fears. Great friends will respect this.

Building a lasting friendship is not easy. If you are authentic and are willing to open yourself up to others, you will find that there are many people who are looking for a good friend. So, if you haven’t already, take the time to invest in friendships. They may be your lifelines one day, and you may be one for them.



15 Comments Add yours

  1. hmaxwell217 says:

    One good friend is a thousand times better than a thousand friends

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    1. Good friendship is a practice—a conscious repetition of empathy, compassion, generosity, sacrifice, patience, love, and above all, forgiveness. None of my long friendships have been smooth or linear. Mistakes were made, misunderstandings created confusion and distance, and there were times of complete radio silence, only to return months or even years later as if nothing happened. It was easier to let the past go so we could rebuild a better future—we both needed and wanted it, without uttering it.


  2. At 78 years I can say that friends have been my rock.

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  3. Nandini Goyal says:

    Very true

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    1. Glad you liked the post Nandini. Friends can help define our priorities. Having friends can help you get more friends which will help us to involve in social functions. Close friends support us through thick and thin. Although being friendly can get more friends, we don’t need hundreds to help us through life.


      1. Nandini Goyal says:

        Yes thank you

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  4. James L says:

    I always appreciate having diverse and friend networks where they are seperate. All provide various unique quakities

    So I have my work/career driven friends where we act as mentors and support for each other.

    Friends related to hobbies where essentially we can talk for hours about what appears to others the most tedious detail.

    Then I have friends who purely for escape relaxing, having dinner seeing films. Just time to escape.

    I value keeping these seperate as it always seems when I bring these together, there is always conflict!

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    1. I am glad you liked the post. I really understand where you are coming from. The time we need real support is when we meet some sort of accident in our life, that is the time we will measure the depth of our friendships. The support we get from our beloved ones will not be enough at that time because for instance if we attend college, we might miss our classes so if our best friends are there for you that is the time to get their help as far as college studies are concerned.

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      1. James L says:

        I hear you, when something goes wrong in our life, that is the moment when you see who your real friends are who pull together to support you!

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  5. Dragthepen says:

    Reblogged this on dragthepen and commented:
    Valuable information

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    1. Thank you for the reblog.


  6. Dragthepen says:

    Valuable information. Most people are not given good insight on how to be selective in choosing who we call friends. I would love to put this on my podcast on soundcloud.

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    1. Thank you. Please do feel free to share them on your podcasts. I would love to get access to your podcasts though. The friends we choose should be open minded, trusted and free mind to help and support us in all the ways possible. Some friends are really true friends, we don’t need to go to them asking the help they will be always trying to find our problem and come to us on time. They are ready to help us even if there is harm in it and ready to bear all the consequences. Some friends support us when we are struggling with finance. Actually when it comes to money, not all friends are willing to support because they would think of not getting their money back. Such friends who support us financially are real great friends.

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      1. Dragthepen says:

        My name on the pod cast is J. R. Floyd on sound cloud. I will try to record sat. Thank you🙏

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