What many people-pleasers don’t realize is that people-pleasing can have serious risks. Not only does it put a lot of pressure and stress on you, but essentially you can make yourself sick from doing too much. If you’re overcommitted, you probably get less sleep and get more anxious and upset. You’re also depleting your energy resources. In the worst case scenario, you’ll wake up and find yourself depressed, because you’re on such overload because you possibly can’t do it all.
Here are few steps on how to be a people pleaser:
- Be Honest – When you can be honest about how you really feel, you let people know the real you.
- Acknowledge Your Needs – Acknowledging what you need means that your focus is where it needs to be – on you!
- Say No Nicely – It takes guts to say no and when you finally do, it’s more empowering than anything else.
- Practice Self-Care – Attend to physical, emotional and spiritual needs to stay balanced and avoid overwhelm.
- Let Go of The Guilt – Give yourself permission to let go of the guilt. You deserve to have what you want!
- Trust That it Will Be Okay – No matter what reaction you get, those who really love you can honor your needs too.
If you’ve always felt a compulsion to meet everyone else’s needs before your own, it’s hard to imagine being different. People-pleasing is not only what you do, but a strong part of who you believe you are. Change Now. Change Today!