Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

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Time and time again people would try to explain what was going on in their lives but would meet with the same old comments: “Pull yourself together”, “Stop feeling sorry for yourself”, “Everyone has got problems too you know” and “We can’t cope with you like this”. Those would come from family, friends, partners. Each time people would become so frustrated inside that nobody understood and would then turn it in on themselves even more.

What was wrong with me? Why was I not normal? What was broken inside my head? Every time they would do the same process and many have lost count of how many times they did. They convince themselves that they could fix themselves and then they would just try to act normal, they would act like they were ok, they would go out and get a job that they knew they didn’t want to do but would do it to appear like they were getting themselves sorted. They would act and be what people want them to be.

So Stop!! Like Right Now. But how? you may ask? Here are few ways which might help:

  1. Fight the Urge to be a Victim – Ultimately you are in control of your own life. You may have good reason to feel sorry for yourself because of what someone else did, but you must resist the urge. You are NOT a victim. 
  2. Know Your Strengths – When you know the value that you bring to the world, it’s hard to feel sorry for yourself for that long. Take some time to think about the great qualities that you have.
  3. Take Responsibility – This is tough to hear for some, but you and only you are responsible for your success and happiness. The second you take responsibility, the second you’ll feel in control of your life.
  4. Get Inspired – Sometimes we just get in a funk and need a little help getting out of it. Get some inspiration and motivation from people, blogs, videos, books, quotes etc. 
  5. Remember your Past Successes – The next time you are struggling with your self-worth and feel like nothing is going you way, think of things in the past that did go your way. 

Self-pity is a habit and a choice. Take actions to unlearn this negative habit, and choose to bring some positivity into your life.

21 Comments Add yours

  1. Aarnav Gupta says:

    Reblogged this on Aarnav's Blog and commented:
    This is important.
    The first paragraph reminded me of a tough time I went through almost 2 years back. And, at such times, it might feel difficult, but you’ve to start working on yourself from somewhere. Start from these 5 points mentioned, and work towards a happy self.

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    1. Thank you for the reblog

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      1. Aarnav Gupta says:

        Thankyou for writing this! 🙂

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    1. Thank you Rupali. We need to identify the signs early and work on them.

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    1. Thank you. I am glad you liked it. We are all a work in progress in some way or the other, won’t you agree?

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  2. anjudeep22 says:

    Arnav
    Very inspiring,
    While reading this I felt it is related to me.
    Well done
    Great job

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    1. Anju. I am glad Arnav shared it with you

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      1. anjudeep22 says:

        Thanks dear
        Hats off to you.💐

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  3. Anand Bose says:

    Your treatise is wonderful to reflect upon. Anand Bose from Kerala

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    1. Thank you Sir. I am glad you liked the post. Feeling sorry for yourself is absolutely detrimental to your health. There’s nothing good that can come from this, and over time, it can absolutely force you to have physical manifestations.

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  4. William "Billbo" Judge says:

    Stay inspired! Well said.

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    1. Thank you. I am glad you liked it. We need to love ourselves more than anybody else.

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  5. David Murphy says:

    Thanks for the like! Cool post about treating depression naturally.

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    1. I am glad you liked it. Thank you for stopping by.

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  6. Yes, I think inspiration has been the biggest help to my heart. thanks

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    1. Ah yes. Many people limit themselves to achieve more because of the boundaries they’ve set for themselves. It’s difficult for them to grasp the bigger picture of accomplishing the dreams they desire. You can’t exploit opportunities without taking risks. Similarly, you can’t take risks without motivating thoughts.

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  7. dourdan says:

    #3 is the hardest.

    i feel like 4 and 5 are prerequisites to 3.

    only after you take responsibility for your victories can you also take responsibility for your mistakes

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    1. Yup. Take responsibility for yourself.

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