Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence is not about being nice to people. It is defined as the ability to validly reason with emotions. It is neither good or bad. Martin Luther King Jr. used emotional intelligence to give spellbinding speeches so did Adolph Hitler.

Emotional Intelligence is important, but the unbridled enthusiasm has obscured a dark side. New evidence shows that when people hone their emotional skills, they come better at manipulating others. When you’re good at controlling your own emotions, you can disguise your true feelings. When you know what others are feeling, you can tug at their heartstrings and motivate them to act against their own best interests.

According to John Mater, one of the coiners of emotional intelligence, there are four factors. Psych writer Kendra Cherry explains :

  • Perceiving Emotion : The bedrock of emotional intelligence is the ability to receive and express emotions in the face or voice of yourself or another.
  • Using Emotions To Help You Think : Emotions help you pay attention to what matters most. They’re a shortcut for prioritisation when something connects with you emotionally, it immediately draws your attention. That’s why “viral” videos are often so laden with emotion.
  • Understanding Emotions : You have to be able to interpret emotions to find the meaning behind them. If your boos in angry, it’s a matter of emotional intelligence to read whether she’s upset about the quality of your work, a fight with a spouse, or from getting a speeding ticket on the way to the office.
  • Managing Emotions : This is where you learn to work with emotions. If you’re uncomfortable in a situation, you learn to withdraw. If a friend is angry, you know how to calm him.

Personal Outcomes. Psychologists Dana Joseph of the University of Central Florida and Daniel Newman of the University of Illinois analysed every study done on emotions, for a total of thousands of employees and 191 different jobs. The benefits of emotional intelligence depends on the gig. The people with the following jobs do better with high EQ > Salespeople, Real Estate Agents, Call Centre Representatives and Counsellors. People with the following jobs do not do well with high emotional intelligence > Mechanics, Scientists and Accountants.

Emotional Intelligence also helps in personal development :

  • Psych research suggests that emotional intelligence can be coached.
  • Emotional Intelligence improves as you get older.
  • Getting feedback can help you increase your emotional intelligence.
  • Reading literature helps emotional intelligence since getting into characters mids helps train you in empathy.

Reference : https://www.businessinsider.in/strategy/The-Mistake-Everybody-Makes-With-Emotional-Intelligence/articleshow/40381857.cms

32 Comments Add yours

  1. I simply love your blog. Thanks for sharing

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you. Much appreciated.

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  2. Gonzov krik iz getribe autizma says:

    Inteligence counters emotions as it itself is a pure process of deduction provided your logic can support it on a level high enough to be called so. What new age psycho babble is refering to is hypocracy. The use of the word empathy and connecting it to such a term as emotional inteligence has little meaning as one does not go well with the other. You said what EI really is IS a skill to manipulate others and their ways to percieve your and their emotions. It’s a made up term for something called maturity. Nice topic.

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    1. GS says:

      For most people, emotional intelligence (EQ) is more important than one’s intelligence (IQ) in attaining success in their lives and careers. As individuals our success and the success of the profession today depend on our ability to read other people’s signals and react appropriately to them. Therefore, each one of us must develop the mature emotional intelligence skills required to better understand, empathize and negotiate with other people — particularly as the economy has become more global. Otherwise, success will elude us in our lives and careers.

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      1. Gonzov krik iz getribe autizma says:

        IQ is just processor. Smarts is how we use it. We as a species developed sonic and written and all sorts of signals direct and to the point to make our statement. EQ or EI is as you basicly said in the article od poker facing the world into submission to your own wiews of it. It’s just an expression made up by those with diplomas hanging on their walls just dying to justify the time invested in aquiring them.Connecting it to success in our own personal life or career would mean teaching our children deceipt is the true way to achieve it. EQ is maturity gained by proper parenthood and nothing else. The economy we have today and it’s state (fabulous) tells the story in full. Signaling through the media showing of COVID as an armagedon like virus is the crown evidence how signaling does it’s dirty work.
        If you really really want to put EQ as a valid state of the mind put it like this. This morning I found a jersey given to me ages ago. I thought it was lost. My day because of it is predetermened to be fantastic. EQ in my book would reffer only to being able to see little things like as movers and shakers of our will to persist in our own strives to success. Success in our our terms.Ignoring any other, too often malignant for the avid individual, path into submission to the ominous importance of ‘the great skeam of things’. To simplifie my wiew on it. IQ is givem by birth. Growing up in the right neighbourhood (home and beyond it) can make it or brake it into a success or a mush. EQ,if you insist on it; is just the way we use the brain inspite all the influencess around us. Emotions and intelligence are separate terms. To put them in one makes no sense but as you sais Hitlerise your wiews to the public.

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      2. GS says:

        Wow thank you for putting down your thoughts for us. Much appreciated.

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      3. Gonzov krik iz getribe autizma says:

        Just words unless understood properly. Thank you for reading.

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  3. A wonderful post on a very important skill. Well done.

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    1. GS says:

      The emotionally intelligent person is skilled in four areas: identifying emotions, using emotions, understanding emotions, and regulating emotions. Our Emotional Intelligence skills are believed to be huge contributors to our overall success in life, due to their influence on our ability to self-manage and motivate.

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  4. Ab says:

    It’s such an important skill to have these days. Thanks for this nice overview!

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    1. GS says:

      Emotional intelligence can lead us on the path to a fulfilled and happy life by providing a framework through which to apply standards of intelligence to emotional responses and understand that these responses may be logically consistent or inconsistent with particular beliefs about emotion.

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  5. Fascinating.. to be able to understand your emotions, control them and then use them to help you think!

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    1. GS says:

      Emotional intelligence (EI) forms the juncture at which cognition and emotion meet, it facilitates our capacity for resilience, motivation, empathy, reasoning, stress management, communication, and our ability to read and navigate a plethora of social situations and conflicts. EI matters and if cultivated affords one the opportunity to realize a more fulfilled and happy life.

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  6. I believe that emotional intelligence is a necessary prerequisite for wisdom. We cannot really learn anything except through relationships with people and situations outside of our own minds and our comfort zones. Book learning is important, but it is only a guide for reaching out and actually connecting with a new person, place, or experience. Emotional intelligence is what allows us to pursue those new persons, places, or experiences in a way that is mutually beneficial and conducive to personal growth. Empathy is the fertile soil of wisdom.

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    1. GS says:

      The skills involved in emotional intelligence are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. Embracing the nuances of human emotion in the workplace can have pragmatic benefits, such as better collaboration among employees and a happier workplace

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      1. I agree. The workplace can be a great school for refining ones emotional intelligence.

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      2. GS says:

        Yup 👍🏼

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  7. Valuable tip indeed. I find that having this mindset can quell heated situations greatly. Thanks for this reminder.

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    1. GS says:

      Emotional intelligence (EQ), or the ability to recognize and understand emotions, and then use that information to guide decision making, is extremely useful in helping you to deal with anger effectively.

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  8. your's_Nomison says:

    Am glad I read this-informative.

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you found it useful. It’s an important skill to have these days.

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      1. your's_Nomison says:

        Especially in human relations-good job GS

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      2. GS says:

        Yes specially in HR. Glad you liked the post Nomison.

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      3. your's_Nomison says:

        I do like all your posts; keep updating.🤗🤩

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      4. GS says:

        Thank you for stopping by again.

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  9. Nice post about a tough topic to deal with.. attaining emotional intelligence needs a lot of patience and understanding of the self… controlling the emotions and mind and think logically through brain… can you tell some techniques about handling the emotions such that one doesn’t become reactive immediately

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    1. GS says:

      Allow quiet time to emotionally decompress. Get in the habit of taking calming mini-breaks throughout the day. Breathe in some fresh air. Stretch. Take a short walk around the office or home. These interludes will reduce the excessive stimulation of going nonstop.

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  10. Wonderful info !!! Really needed for a emotional person like me as I am learning to control my emotions too. Thanks for sharing !!!

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    1. GS says:

      Emotionally intelligent people are self-aware and intuitive. They are aware of their own emotions and how they can affect those around them. They also pick up on others’ emotions and body language and use that information to enhance their communication skills.

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  11. Emotional intelligence is such a deep topic and it takes time to practice and should have umpteen patience… it is such a challenge to understand your emotions and react logically to the emotions… do share some tips from your experience and learning’s on how to handle your emotions and address it logically and rationally rather than been reactive to it…

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    1. GS says:

      Don’t underestimate the power of your attitude. A negative attitude easily infects others if a person allows it to. Emotionally intelligent people have an awareness of the moods of those around them and guard their attitude accordingly. They know what they need to do in order to have a good day and an optimistic outlook. This could include having a great breakfast or lunch, engaging in prayer or meditation during the day or keeping positive quotes at their desk or computer.

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