You Need To Fall In Love With Yourself

The problem is, we forget to love ourselves. We cannot expect someone to commit to us if we are not devoted to ourselves. We cannot hope for someone to support us if we don’t have faith in ourselves. We cannot wish for security and laughter and jealous fights if we do not believe that we deserve it. We cannot be honest with our partner if we lie to ourselves. Our partner cannot listen to us if we muffle our own inner voices. Our partner cannot take care of us if we don’t know how to heal our own wounds. Our partner cannot make us feel confident if we are deeply insecure. Our partner will not believe in us if we do not believe in us.

Here are a few ways to fearlessly start loving yourself more :

  • Use Daily Affirmations – Affirmations work to help boost your self-esteem, which in turn, contributes to that goal of fearless self-love.
  • Stop Your Negative Self Talk – Adding fuel to the fire of unhealthy thinking patterns is the habit of negative self-talk.
  • Challenge Social Expectations – While working toward a fearless self-love, we need to be mindful of these social influences.
  • Build Your Strengths – If social influence plays a role in how we shape our motivations, we run the risk of focusing our attention in areas that may not be honouring our unique gifts.
  • Focus On Your Successes – Each person has an ingrained tendency to remember the negative events in their life, before they remember the positive.
  • Practice Self-Compassion – Arguably one of the most vital ways to grow in self-love is through the act of self compassion.
  • Live Gratefully – A grateful heart brings a joyful spirit. Gratitude is more than affirmations or positive self-talk.
  • Find the Humour in Life – Life is hard and if we spend too much time thinking about all those hardships, we are guaranteed to suffer.
  • Don’t Forget to Smile – Seeking a fearless self-love should include smiling! Loving yourself is striving to reach your fullest potential.
  • Ask For Help – Allow others to help lighten your load so you can focus on the most needed tasks and complete those in a near perfect manner.
  • Set Boundaries – If we don’t set the standard for how others are allowed to treat us, then people will treat is however they feel.
  • Stay Home When Needed – If you struggle with holding boundaries with self and others, then perhaps your self-care is lacking.
  • Share Your True Feelings – Self-love asks us to be honest and raw with ourselves. Honest with our true values, morals, wants and needs.
  • Surround Yourself with Goodness – Seeking a fearless self love is a full time job. All aspects of our life need to stay focused on our ultimate goals; self-love and happiness.
  • Remember That You Are Loved – Affirmations, boundaries, and positivity can all help to increase our self-love. Everything mentioned has the potential to improve your happiness, but only if we know that we are loved.

Only we can pull ourselves out of the black hole of insecurity. We have to know that the only person who we can depend on is us. We have to like our personality. We have to recognize our weaknesses. We have to love ourselves through our mistakes, self-described flaws, and any regrets we may have. We have to believe in who we are, always and forever. We have to. And only when we have learned to love ourselves, someone else will too.

36 Comments Add yours

  1. Aweni says:

    An important reminder for all and sundry.👍🏼

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  2. hmaxwell217 says:

    This is like the poem where I wrote “I fell in love with me,”. At theseinfeldeffect. com. Hey you guys check in it out. This is a great post.

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  3. Aditi Tyagi says:

    Yes! This is Soo inspiring.🌻

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    1. Yes Aditi. It is a beautiful feeling. Falling in love with yourself.!

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  4. cgdtaylor says:

    Reblogged this on Minutes for Christ and commented:
    Feed up with life – then read this uplifting post….

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  5. cgdtaylor says:

    Many thanks for this timely reminder in a world where we do not affirm each other enough.

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  6. This is such an important message, a lovely post x

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    1. Self love works wonders to our life.

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  7. As the saying goes, “you cannot give what you do not have. ” So, in order to give love, you need to love yourself first.

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    1. Why can’t I get to your blog page?

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      1. this is my blog page maam https://wanderingcounselor.wordpress.com/

        I’m just starting it out. 🙂

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      2. Thank you for sharing your blog link. I will definitely stop by. Good Luck for your blogging journey.

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      3. Thanks! Will pursue this journey. 😆

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  8. gpavants says:

    Hi Garima,

    There is always a good self-image which counters narcissism. That is a battle many folks in the US have to battle. I battle with that, too. I am thankful the Bible does say, love your neighbor as yourself. So, maybe the good boundaries and balance come when your focus is not yourself. I do thank the Lord for keeping that selfish me from always running the show. We can have a real center to rotate all our human experience around.

    Thank you,

    Gary

    On Tue, Jun 11, 2019 at 10:46 AM Be Inspired..!! wrote:

    > empress2inspire posted: ” The problem is, we forget to love ourselves. We > cannot expect someone to commit to us if we are not devoted to ourselves. > We cannot hope for someone to support us if we don’t have faith in > ourselves. We cannot wish for security and laughter and jealous f” >

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    1. Hi Gary, it’s quite different here in India. We battle with low self confidence and low self esteem mostly. Hence loving ourselves becomes a priority.

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      1. gpavants says:

        Wow! Isn’t it interesting what different cultures struggle with. I see what you mean. There are still issues with the caste system, correct? The thing we know is that everyone has value and uniqueness. Walking through the airport today I am reminded that no two people are alike and everyone has a story to tell. That is the same on any culture.

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  9. Carol Anne says:

    I love this! Its so true! Reblogging this one!

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  10. Carol Anne says:

    Reblogged this on Therapy Bits and commented:
    Empress2inspire wrote this fantastic post about how to love yourself! Everyone should read it and follow these tips!
    They’re awesome! ❤

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    1. Thank you for the reblog.!

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  11. Frank LaManna says:

    Empress…I’m totally in agreement with everything you’ve written.
    I would like add a personal opinion from experience.
    I’ve been single for 7 years now. Its lonely. There is a physical component to all this, and simply put, we need each other. I miss touching and hugging and kissing. I really do love myself, but I want to love again, or a least have some fun again before I do settle in with a true love. I love women and I find myself after all this time, needing the soft touch of a loving female. Holding and being held, and smell of her hair. Its absolutely necessary, even if it’s just a little fun for a little while. 💕😄

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  12. You are such a amazing writer. I have started implementing your tips and I feel so positive about it.

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    1. Garima says:

      Thank you 🙏🏼 for your kind words. Means a lot.

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  13. KENDI KARIMI says:

    I can vouch for gratitude, self compassion and humor. True champions in this short life of ours.

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    1. GS says:

      The most beautiful and precious byproduct of the power of positivity is that it guilds a deep golden path of gratitude in our lives. Journeying on this voyage a person is able to dive into the infinite gentle, nurturing pond of self love and self care, empowering the regulating dance of the happy joyous gene expression, inviting balanced health into one’s life on a cellular DNA level. Some of the essential indispensable ingredients of manifesting the ultimate lifestyle of health and happiness are having an organic aptitude for gratitude, appreciation, pleasure, joy and working towards our dreams, our goals.

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      1. KENDI KARIMI says:

        Allow me to quote this on my post and tag your blog. 🙏

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      2. GS says:

        Please feel free to do so.

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  14. Hi Garima,
    You are such an inspiring, wise writer. As a mother and grandmother, I now find it hard to love myself. All my life has been concentrated on my children and grandchildren, now I live alone with my cats, I am working on loving myself, using your advice and tips.
    Perhaps you could write an article on forgiveness both for the self and others. I would really appreciate your views on that. Thank you for your inspiration!
    In love and light,
    Carolyn ❤👩‍🦰🌈🙏

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    1. GS says:

      Hi Carolyn, I will definitely write an article on forgiveness. Just to let you know that YOU ARE LOVED. YOU ARE VALUED. YOU ARE IMPORTANT. Sending you lots of positive vibes.

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      1. Thank you Garima. 🙏

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