In reality, low self-esteem affects more people than you think. Low self-esteem refers to how you feel about yourself overall. Comparing, gossiping about others, putting others first, even excessive Facebooking are all signs of low-self esteem. You may say you do these things to stay connected or because “I want to”. The truth is when one is content with themselves, they have healthy self-esteem; external validation is simply an additive, not a necessity to their lives. A person with healthy self-esteem spends the bulk of their time doing things that promote positivity within themselves and exude this in life.
Here are some typical habits which show low self esteem :
- Saying “yes” to everything.
- Negative self-talk or self-criticism.
- Back down when opinions are challenged by others.
- Being indecisive with simple decisions.
- Fearing failure.
- Taking constructive criticism personally.
- Sweating the small stuff.
- Afraid to share your opinions in a conversation.
- Giving up too easily.
- Comparing yourself negatively to others.
- Claiming your successes are just luck.
- Buying things because others like them, not because you like them.
- Social withdrawal.
- Excessive preoccupation with personal problems.
- Letting fear stop you from trying new things.
These are only a few characteristics of low self-esteem. If you can identify the characteristics of low self-esteem, the next step is to change the way you think about yourself and how you handle things in your life. Read my post on How to Build Self Esteem. This will lead to more positive self-talk and experiences that can radically boost your self esteem into a positive and beautiful place.