I’m going to fail. Why am I even trying. Do you I really need more reasons to embarrass myself? etc etc etc……
I don’t know if you have been in such a situation before where you give up even before you have tried, but I have been. We hear motivational anecdotes of people failing their way to success and we come to believe that we, too, can emerge from the same challenges unscathed. While these stories can be very uplifting and inspiring when taken lightly, they beg a larger question: Are we beginning to embrace failure to the point of danger? Do such isolated stories and events, especially when taken in bite-size chunks, trivialize risk-taking and the true impact of repetitive failure? My answer is a resounding “yes.”
Here are few ways which can help you from getting over the “I’am gonna fail” mentality to “Let me try this and see what happens” one.
- Failure is Normal – So how do you find this positive mentality? If you’ve had some interview failures recently or maybe a heart break, you can’t dwell and let them affect your self-esteem. Remember, if you haven’t ever experienced failing at something, you’d be very unusual. the vast majority of people fail before they succeed. So remind yourself that failing is normal.
- Look Forward Not Back – So how do you stop failure affecting your self confidence? Simply by learning all you can from what happened. If you treat failures as an opportunity to learn, they become worthwhile beneficial events, not nightmare memories that hold you back. When you approach failure positively like this, you’ll find it easier to stop criticizing yourself. You’re human, just like the rest of us; we all fail at things every now and then. So the drill from now on is to force yourself to look forward not back.
- Break the Habit – Try seeing positive thinking as a state of mind. See it as a mental attitude that steers you towards expecting to succeed, not fail. If you struggle to approach challenges positively, try to see negativity as an actual habit you need to break. Breaking a habit requires real determination, particularly if it means challenging your thought processes. In fact experts say it takes 21 days to break a habit completely.
taking failure seriously and building cushions of support that can absorb the harshest of downfalls is the surest way to success. There is no need to romanticize mistakes, learning from them only after the fact. Instead, we should learn how to best avoid failure and in the worst-case scenarios, be prepared to bounce back from it.