Holding on is being brave, but letting go and moving on is often what makes us stronger and happier. Many of us believe that we have to make ourselves feel really enthusiastic about our goals and aspirations in order to manifest them. We’ve been told that if we just want our goals enough, we will achieve them. In fact, we often blame ourselves for not wanting them enough. Yet, in my experience, this is backwards. The mind equates wanting something with lack. That is, if you want something, you don’t have it. And the more we want something, the more we feel like we don’t have it.

f you’d rather have your goal, I would recommend letting go of wanting it. After all, would you rather want a million dollars or would you rather have a million dollars? Would you rather want good health or have good health? Would you rather want a wonderful, loving relationship or would you rather have one? I think the answer is obvious. Here is what letting go means to me. These beliefs have not only allowed me to be less anxious but also keep me level headed so that I keep working on my goals :

• To let go does not mean to stop caring. It means I can’t do it for someone else.
• To let go is not to myself off. It’s the realization I can’t control another.
• To let go is to allow someone to learn from natural consequences.
• To let it go is to recognize when the outcome is not in my hands.
• To let it go is not to care for, but to care about.
• To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
• To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
• To let go is not to expect miracles, but to take each day as it comes, and cherish myself in it.
• To let it go is not criticize or regulate anybody, but try to become what I dream I can be.
• To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
• To let go is to fear less and love more.

Surrender literally means to stop fighting. Stop fighting with yourself. Stop fighting the universe and the natural flow of things. Stop resisting and pushing against reality.

Surrender = Complete acceptance of what is + Faith that all is well, even without my input.