One of the biggest challenges to working with difficult emotions like anxiety and anger is to accept them in the first place. It’s hard to do. We don’t want to accept them, because they don’t feel good. There are also lots of messages out there that seem to tell us that we should just be happy all of the time, and there is something wrong with us if we aren’t.
The problem is that if we get caught up in being ashamed of our emotions or running from them, we never build up the compassionate courage to work with them. This working starts with accepting our emotions as they are, non judgmentally like allowing ourselves to simply notice what is on the plate before deciding whether or not we’re going to eat it.
Here are few steps which you can use to manage your difficult emotions :
- Turn towards your emotions with acceptance – Become aware of the emotions and identify where you sense it in your body.
- Identify and label the emotions – To stay mindful, say to yourself “This is anger” or “This is anxiety”.
- Accept Your Emotions – Don’t deny the emotions. Acknowledge and accept that it is there.
- Realize the Impermanence of your Emotions – Even if the emotions feels overwhelming, remember that it will pass.
- Inquire and Investigate – Ask yourself, “What triggered me? Why do I feel this way?”
- Let Go of the Need to Control Your Emotions – Be open to the outcome of your emotions and what unfolds.
More than anything, approach this all as an experiment without expectations. It’s the expectations about how things “should” be that crash down on your present moment experience not allowing for a fresh experience. Be kind to yourself through this process, being human can be a struggle at times and an understanding of this can bring compassion, which enables resilience.
Be Inspired..!! 
Sometimes you don’t know they even exist. You know something is wrong, but don’t know the real cause.
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Exactly, that is why it is very important to be aware of these thoughts. We often underestimate the power of a healthy diet, regular exercise and writing a journal. But they all contribute to the increase awareness about our body and mind. It is all interconnected.
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Yes, it used to happen to me often. But now with introspection and regular meditation I am able to trace back to the real cause.
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Meditation is very important
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Meditation- Single cure for all human suffering
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Yes mindfulness and meditation.
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Yup. Mindfulness too. For me mindfulness is a subset of meditation. And in my day to day life – mindfulness is most important 🙏
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Good thoughts!
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Thank you. Glad you liked it.!
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Personal diary productions are amazing for the soul.
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Yes they are. Journal entries sometimes may overwhelm us but they are essential for realising patterns.
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Music to my ears, see I was right about my earlier comment, you speaking more is a good thing.
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🙂
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Yup. Nothing wrong with having emotions- being aware is the only way out.
In Geeta, Lord Krishna says that ANGER is our worst enemy so to say. Being angry makes us lose discrimination and we perish 😌
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Thank you for taking us back to Gita Sir.
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Pleasure 😊
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Can I ask a few questions?
When did you start blogging?
How do get so much traffic?
Are you using a paid plan?
Are you getting so much traffic since the beginning of the blog?
What is the best time to post a blog according to Indian Standard Time (IST)?
Is there any specific time a blog must be posted to get maximum traffic?
I started a blog https://believestrong.wordpress.com in February. It has been 4 months and I have written 40+ blog but I am not getting any traffic on my blog. What’s the reason? Yes, I have no such vocab like you or any other blogger has. Maybe I don’t write well. Maybe I write too short but it is because I don’t want to include unnecessary things to make it longer & want to specific about topic. Can you give me some tips to get traffic or reach more people?
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Hey,
It’s been 4 years
By commenting on other’s posts
Yes, premium
Nopes.
Mornings 9ish and evening 6pm
Not that I am aware off
You write well. Relax, have patience.
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Thank you for your encouragement. Let me ask you one last question.
Did you see any difference in traffic when you switched from free plan to premium plan? Is switching to premium plan help in getting more traffic? What are the benefits of premium plan?
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Primary benefit of a premium plan is getting a domain name and
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Using jetpack for driving content.
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Difference in traffic will only be seen when you post more often and engage with other writers on the platform.
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Thank you for giving your precious time.
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Happy to help.
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Truly correct. It has taken me years and hard work to live this way. It is so liberating to live in this manner. Great of you to share.
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Thank you. I am glad you liked it.
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Hi Garima,
I feel I am learning this finally instead of stuffing, denying, or ignoring. Thank the Lord for reminding me the value of being emotionally healthy, right? We need to experience all the emotional “flavors”: sweet, salty, sour, bitter, spicy.
Thank you,
Gary
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Hi Gary, Indeed. If we learn to listen and not run away from emotions, we will be able to understand what they’re telling us. Thus, by paying attention to them we may get to know a part of us that has been hidden, but has needs we’re not meeting.
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I have piece coming out on the God Among Geeks blog about Thor and men’s emotional health. Watch for it. I think you will like it.
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I am looking forward to it.
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Very beautifully expressed! I agree:)
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Thank you. This was a difficult post for me as I was fighting my own emotions while writing it but I am glad it came out well enough for everyone to like. Thank you.
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Very insightful!!
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Thank you. I am glad you liked it. Difficult emotions are inevitable. Yet so many of us aren’t used to feeling them. We do other things — like distract ourselves with Facebook, snap at our spouse, paint a smile on our faces — and these other things don’t make the pain go away. Which is why it’s vital to have a collection of healthy coping strategies we can turn to. Strategies that help us to process our pain, strategies that genuinely soothe and comfort. Hence I wrote this article to help all of us deal with difficult emotions. Thank you.
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Thanks for the excellent and timely reminder.
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You are very welcome Roger. We all need a push sometimes when it comes to our emotions.
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I love everything about this
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I am glad you liked it. It is an important topic, emotions, for all of humanity.
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agreed, thank you for addressing it
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Reblogged this on Lilacs, Chocolate and Potatoes and commented:
yes!
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Thank you for the reblog.
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I’m enamored by your blog
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Thank you 🙏🏼
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Thank you for responding to my poem, “Martin’s Dream”. After writing it, I began to realize that maybe most of my life has been a kind of ‘sleepwalking’
and denial; not really paying attention to my attitudes, thoughts, emotions or why I have them! How does one become what many call “emotionally mature”. Some of us grow very old without ever really reaching that stage, right?
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Yes Jacqueline. I agree with you. That is why the concept of mindfulness is so popular these days. We are not mindful, even after knowing how important it is.
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Don’t you agree?
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Yes, Sometimes I think it is because we are all in such a hurry to get there…wherever ‘there’ is!
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Yup:)
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I love that you can think about your emotions. I always used to have to go back to where it all started in order to take care of how I got my emotions when angry or frustrated. I used to take & use racing to meditate with when burning down my emotions which others said that was a rage. I had health problems that would make me use my emotions in other ways like being angry & needing to go use my energy to burn it all down since I was working my emotions that way. Emotions & me are still learning more about them oo.
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We are all a work in progress.
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